I am too anxious and am worried that if I break up with him in person he'll say something about how hurt he is or something and I will budge and stay in the relationship.
I think it's best to do it in an e-mail or phone, right? In my case?
2006-08-07 01:19:39 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do it face to face and let him see how you feel, and if he gets sad in front of you then just leave. If it is by phone, email or a letter it won't be right. If he knows you are serious then he should let you go, and if he starts anything with you then just leave.
2006-08-07 01:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by Crazychick 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're afraid that he won't act like a man and you can not leave him if you tell him straight, I advice you to write an email, cause it's easier than even on phone. I had a bf long back and couldn't stand him and I was shy to tell him, so I told him on phone. Ever since, he hasn't contacted me. My best friend was involved with a guy for more than 1 year and she was desperate, she had no idea what else to do so he should leave her alone. She was coming home from dating, crying cause he doesn't understand they are too different. He was basically begging to be with her. So, one day, I stood my her side and we conceived an email and sent it to him. He felt too hurt, cause in that email she wrote all the things she simply detested in him, so his ego was destroyed. But at least, she was free afterwards. They only remained a sort of friends, I mean saying Hello on the road to each other and nothing else. You should do the same, if you're not happy with this relationship.
2006-08-07 08:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by DreamGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let the guy have any power over you with his words. You are an individual and the can't make you do anything.
It is t ie for you to learn to not give in to men. YOu are a smart woman and you deserve to speak your wrods.
If you start letting guys control you it will be a long road down your life of abuse. If he is hurt then oh well, he will get over it.
Best to tell him in person, but email would be the second option.
The longer you wait to tell him the more difficulit it iwll be
Suck it iup and don't chANGE YOUr mind no matter what he begd
2006-08-07 08:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was exactly the same when I broke up with my bf not long ago. I must admit I did it over the phone but no matter how you do it he is still going to try and convince you to stay with him, if you change your mind you will be stuck and regret what you have done and will end up with more pain for the both of you.
Just do it in a way you feel comfortable telling him.
Take care hun
2006-08-07 08:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by Natalie K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should do it in person. I had the same problem. It kept me from breaking up with him for a long time, but I finally learned it is just something I have to deal with. Its very hard, but well worth it. I've never been happier. Now, if you think he might be abusive, email or phone would be ok. But if you would just do it to make things eaier for you, I wouldn't. Do it in person, it's more respectful that way.
2006-08-07 08:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by Trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the only option a break up by phone, email or in person? How about ignoring emails, phone calls and dates, he will then know something is up and may even decide to break up the relationship.
But i dont know what your situation is so my suggestion may very well not be practicable.
2006-08-07 08:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by Georg B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about all the reasons you really want to break up with him and then go with it. Just keep thinking about them as your walking closer to him and then do it what ever he says, say you know I know but you can get through, it's going to be hard for me to. Tell him that you can be friends ( if YOU think it's okay to be) if not say I'll see you around.
If that doesn't work then find and really big guy and tell him you need him to be your BF for 5 min and then tell your EX your dating someone else.
Good Luck
2006-08-07 08:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by LovetoLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Your boyfriend sounds like a really schmoozer, and he is coy and selfish, and only wants to be with you for the *status* of it all. He is manipulative, but also a stalker, so be careful if you do it over the phone because then he will come after to you and will get you when you least expect it. He is also Evil.
2006-08-07 08:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds controlling and manipulative. If you have to, call him and break up with him, but it might be best if you had a friend there with you to give you support so you will stick to your guns.
If he keeps calling you or tries to talk to you, please cut him off instantly, each and every time. This is important because of the sort of person he sounds like - a potential stalker.
2006-08-07 09:01:59 · answer #9 · answered by Steffi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that; if you fear his reaction and you are not happy in this relationship; you need to tell him immediately. Will you go through your life in anxiety and fear with a man that you do not love, just because you didn't want to hurt his feelings? Trust me, men recover quickly from failed relationships..Life is too short! Tell him and move on..take a friend with you or a family member if it eases your anxiety. I hope this helps you..Good Luck
2006-08-07 08:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by Artemis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋