I have recently started to date my good male friend of 8yrs - feels slightly weird! Is this a dangerous thing?

Question

We hjave always got on well and have a great time together - never fallen out, never argued, always reliable. Feels bizarre to see him in a different light and no love at first sight feeling but it feels cool. Just donlt know if I'm going to jepordise my friendship and if we're just settling for each other becuase it seems easy. Any advice/experience gratefully recieved!

Answer 1

a long term friend that turns into romance can be better because you already know each other very well and that is a great foundation to build a relationship on.. it will feel weird but if it also feels right then dont worry about the what ifs just enjoy being with each other and good luck with it all

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Yes you are jeopardizing your friendship. You already have the second you went out. If you break up you will never be the friends you were before.
But if you don't break up you can spend you life with a person you really love, after all you've known each other for eight years, you know all the quirks, this could very well work.

Answer 4

It's natural for you to feel a bit odd because you've been friends for 8 years, and now your relationship is taking a new turn. Don't worry. I'm sure you two will be better friends than you already are. Good luck!

Answer 5

You feeling slightly weird is proper. It is really a dangerous thing. You should avoid. After all either he is only 8 years and accordingly unaware of your intentions or the 8 years relations with him is being negated. Either way not good.

Answer 6

me and my friend of 7 years ended up getting closer then we should have. I fell in love, we fell out, we no longer speak. on the other hand I know that if the feelings had been the returned we could have had a really great relatinship. you have been friends for that long for a reason. Hope it works out and good luck!! : )

Answer 7

well this is a hard question....dating a friend seems like a good idea because u already get on and trust eachother, but also could be a bad idea because if you break up then you could also loose your friendship of 8 years

Answer 8

I dont want to burst your bubble but i woud like to open your eyes to the worst case senario which unfortunately happend to me!!!

I had known my ex as a mate for years (12 to be exact) NEVER looked at him any other way but as a mate until one night the ineviatable had happend (drunken kiss, which led to the drunken one night fling) awoke in the mornig in shock as it felt sooooooooooooo natural and besides i had no reason to be warey of him as we had been my mate for years ... Anyway long and short of it after a year of dating and all going well we moved in together.

Then it all changed he got possesive demanding and in a funny way bullied me.. (mind you he knew exactly which buttons to press - after all he knows me inside and out) I found myself staying in a relationship with him because i didnt want to make him mad. He would accuse me of "ruining our friendship" (you see he always did twist things!!) as it was me who apparently made the first move.. (funny how i remember different ey!)

After a very nasty break up and him running up debts in my name a year of bickering... and yes you guessed it... we are mates again... but.. ive learned a BIG lesson and more so the VERY HUGE line between friendship and love life... We speak everyweek and ive recently fixed him up with a girly mate (who he is perfectly matched to - they can both be VERY bitchy) which is going well.. (but if i see him treating her like he did me he knows i'll kick his A**)

I hope that things work out differently for you two... but i would say at the same time is your friendship worth ruining over a "quick romance"

Good Luck...

Answer 9

Important that you both value the friendship above all else initially ensuring this will remain should the relationship falter.

Answer 10

i think that if you were not the same personality you wouldn't stay together for 8 years , so go for it , i think you will make a great couple.