I've had so many of my friends tell me how awesome I am and inspirational because I'm following my dreams. However I feel lonely......I live on my own, I go out most weekends with my pals but most of my friends are in relationships... so not much time to pal around with the single girl.
I found a guy who is everything that I've found wonderful & gourgeous within people except he's just come out of a loooooong relationship and just wants to be friends. He also says I'm awesome and is very willing to be friends with me.... so what am I doing wrong? why am I so dense when it comes to this? And If I'm so awesome... why doesn't anyone want to date me? why do they all just want to be my friend?
2006-08-07 00:02:01 · 17 answers · asked by Smittypie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WAIT! TRUE LOVE MAKES ITS OWN WAY AND IT WILL KNOCK AT YOUR DOOR SOMEDAY!
ALL THE BEST
2006-08-07 00:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by Vanchit S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person you've met had just ended a long-time relationship, right?...Well...it's better to be close to that person as a friend at first...to let the wounds heal, because it's probable that he still loves the girl he broke up with. Take it easy and forget about love for a while. If you really like that guy, be his friend and cheer him up. Don't let him fall into the abyss! Be on his side and maybe he'll respond as you want him. Don't be desperate for love and if all say you're awesome, that doesn't always mean they tell it to you because it's true. Sure, you are awesome in your own way, but many will tell you that just to say: Hey...look what a great friend I am!...when they actually want something from you. Trust in yourself and don't give up...Love will come, but you can't force it to come when you want :)
2006-08-07 07:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by mickurahul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bide UR time & wait.
B a real friend, learn 2 listen.
U'd B surprised how many men love 2 talk but rarely find any1 honest/reliable person 2 listen 2 them!
Branch out & get even more friends & B aware that a Man can smell a desperate woman at 50yards.
B confident & strong in URself & let the desperation drop away, U don't need it!
Good Luck & I'm sure U will 1 day find UR Mr Perfect.
:)
2006-08-07 07:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awesome people aren't allways great to date. Could be you intimidating men because you're so driven and have so many diverse interrests. It could be that you're friendly but romantically awkward, maybe you don't know how to send a man the signals that you're interrested. And I certainly don't mean to kick you while you're down but it's possible that you're just not terribly attractive to the men you're pursuing, if it's true your friends wouldn't tell you. I've often told women I'm not interrested in that I'm not ready for a relationship. Perhaps you should seek some unbiased opinions about what about you is an obstacle in dating.
2006-08-07 07:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you are awesome, but to find your true love your just going to have to look deeper, meet new people, go on dates. The only thing you have to do is believe, have confidence in yourself, I'm certain somewhere out there lies your soul mate and who ever discourages should only make you strong. Whoever doesn't want to have relations with you is only missing out on a great person.
2006-08-07 07:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking for it and let it come to you. People will notice a happy, independant, honest lady like yourself only if they see your confidence. Be happy to have what you got and others will see it too. Girl someone like you deserve true love after waiting so long for it and thats exactly what you'll get. Hold on and good luck.
2006-08-07 07:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it happen. I met a wonderful man that just wanted to be friends. Within weeks, he changed his mind.
2006-08-07 07:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lynda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it suck doesnt it! well, maybe you should stop trying to find a bf and something will happen. i mean, its like the "great guy" who ends up dancing with the hot girls ugly cousin. lol. because you so fabulous, you might be scaring guys off coz you so sure of what you want. dont look. he will find you! good luck chum
2006-08-07 07:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by rumbz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with them even they only want you as friend...as i believe that being close to one of them will lead you to the love your longing for...it is said that friendship and love has only a very thin line in between....so if you established deep friendship to one of them...a possibilty of falling in love is to happen...Goodluck!!!
2006-08-07 07:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem just like you.but unfortunately ther ıs no way to beıng patient.
2006-08-07 07:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by feel_the_fire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow. Accept yourself for yourself and other people for what they are. Love has many guises and romantic or sexual love are only two relatively short-lived things.
2006-08-07 07:06:35 · answer #11 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋