I've found that gay and bi men sort of put up with each other. Why is that? Are they so different, both sexually and culturally that they can't possibly get along or understand one another?
2006-08-06 23:52:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Differences include the following:
1. Many gay men want to settle down into a monogamous relationship, and bisexual men are THOUGHT to not want to do this. (It's a silly notion. Being attracted to both genders doesn't mean you won't be able to be monogamous.) However, gay men frequently don't trust bisexual men.
2. Bisexual men have passed more easily and so don't necessarily know the same level of oppression as gay men.
3. Gay men who are 100% homosexual have difficulty imagining why someone who could find happiness in a heterosexual relationship would want to participate in the gay world with all the oppression inherent in it.
4. Many of the bisexual men that gay men know are married to women but having affairs with men outside the marriage. This small sample of bisexuals convinces those who jump to conclusions that bisexual men do this as a rule.
5. Bisexual men have to be bi-cultural. There is an inherent difference in the things that please women and the things that please men, and I'm not speaking of just bedtime activities. This is difficult, and a lot of bisexual men don't cross that cultural bridge without stumbling. It can leave both bi and gay men feeling a little out of whack.
2006-08-07 02:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
While I do believe that bisexuality is a real and valid orientation, there are many men who claim the title "bisexual" who just can't own up to the gay label. They tend to say to the gay man, "I'm better than you, because I'm only bi, not gay." The idea of a man who has sex with men (and women) but says, that he could only love a woman, not a man, also crosses a line, in saying that we are not loveable.
On the other hand, bisexual guys sometimes shun gay men because they don't want to be labeled under the premise of guilt by association. They think that if they are found to be having a "thing" with a gay guy, that the women they date might start to doubt their masculinity.
We should just accept each other for who we are, and even if as a gay man, I believe that someone who tells me he is bi, is actually gay, I should allow him his own timing in coming out to himself and others.
2006-08-07 01:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In all groups you will find some people who don't like others I guess but I have to say this to anyone who thinks Bi men are like Gay men, put a gay man in front of a naked women and he will dress her up and take her shopping but put the same naked women in front of the Bi male..... This wasn't meant to offend anyone because I believe we should all get along. Thank you for this question I enjoyed reading all the answers
2006-08-07 05:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Super 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... bi guys are somewhat similar to guys that are gay because they like both like men. I don't see why else they would get along. Both normally like taking and/or giving anal pleasure to guys. How hard is that to see? And other thing is that some gay guys like to get along with females even if they're not interested in them... that goes the same for bi guys.
2006-08-07 00:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Angela B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How ignorant of bisexuality is everyone here?
In the main, there isn't any tension between gay and bi men. There are a few gay men who think that all bisexuals are in denial or are disposed to being unfaithful just as there are some "bisexuals" who are gays in denial or who have low morals, when it comes to relationships.
2006-08-07 01:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The crowd that I used to hang out with in college had this problem, but it was mainly because the lesbians and gay guys were pretty stereotypical. The lesbians were all in committed relationships and were involved in political activism, and the guys were at the bar every other night. It was more of a personality dispute. Other than that kind of crap, I couldn't tell you.
2016-03-27 02:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being bisexual and being g0y I do not have the same attitudes that most 100% homosexual men have regarding the activities of sex. With in g0y culture since we do not practice anal sex we do not see luving on our buds in the same light that gay men do. We can embrace monogamy with our wives and have many male friends. Since penetration doesn't occur it is not cheating to be intimate with our guy friends. Also since penetration doesn't occur then it is OK for us to have many friends. You don't get jealous over your buds other buds. That is not the actions of a man. Jealousy is something for a male female type relationship. G0y do not get into gender bending so we do not have the same feelings that gays do as regards to our intimate friendships.
2006-08-07 02:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, who cares?
Second... I don't think there is such a thing as a "Bi Man".
I think a Bi Man is a GAY man that can stomach the notion of a woman.
2006-08-06 23:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because if your bi then you destroy the whole myth that gays were just born that way and cant help it.
2006-08-07 00:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by 1diputs 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I haven't found that.
2006-08-07 00:34:09 · answer #10 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋