Dear friends...
I'm loving a girl for more than 3 years...
She is also... We are very deep... Like "made for each other"...
One mistake we did is, we couldn't tell about our love to our parents or others before because of family situation.
Now the girl's parents arranged marriage for her..
They convinced her to marry the person arranged by them..
She loves me verymuch and can't against her parents also...
She is crying... She can't leave me, I can't live without her...
I tried to get permission from the girl's parents, but they are telling that all the preparation is going on, now what to do..?
Now the girl is saying that if we did something to stop this marriage means, it will affect everyone especially the parents verymuch...
so, let us leave this as it is... i will marry that unknown person, this is my fact... and she is crying...
These words affected my heart very much, i can't even sleep in night now, i'm feeling about the past things...
2006-08-06 23:47:44 · 10 answers · asked by My_Answers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Is there any possibilities to stop this marriage without affecting anybody's soul deeply...??
Because, this marriage will affect our heart life-long... It does not seem to be a right thing...
Our heart is becoming weak everyday...
But onething, we are not ready to elope.. we want to live with our parents' blessings...
Please take this as your own, and give us your valuable suggestion.... please...
PS:
We are in different locations, the girl's parents don't allow us to contact... :((
The church announced the first announcement about the marriage... :((
2006-08-06 23:52:26 · update #1
Wow. This sounds like a "cultural problem." You might just have to live with it.
I mean, if your beloved cannot even tell her parents how she really feels about you, and if she accepted this arranged marriage without protest, then that must mean that she is more loyal to her culture and to her parents than she is to you. Therefore, I feel that the best course of action is to give her up. Forever.
Another possibility is to give her an ultimatum. Tell her that because she is more-loyal to her culture and to her family than she is to you and to the love that you two share together, that continuing your romance is hypocritical and a total waste of time. So, although you love her very much, you have no choice but to drop her and to never see her again....UNLESS she is willing to be brave and tell her parents the truth. Then see what happens!
Good luck to you!
2006-08-06 23:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by Cyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away and marry each other. If the parents don't get over it too bad. Don't see them until a little one is on the way, then they wont be able to split you two up. It's 2006, time to move into the future of marrying who you love. Why be miserable for the rest of your lives. It's not you who is being selfish, it's the parents.
2006-08-07 06:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by Nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg! Thats terrible but she needs to stand up to her parents thats what she needs well when she goes to that alter she can say I don't and if her parents don't except that then I guess they don't love her at all to let her make her own desicions shes not a child and u can't force a person to marry someone else and they already found love thats wrong but she doesn't have to go to the alter and I don't she needs to tell her parents im not doing this
well both of ya'll two do not just her lol
2006-08-07 07:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by lil sad diva princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww.
At the marriage,
can't you say stuff like "I REJECT!" during the I do parts, like in movies?
then have this really romantic scene?
=x If not, and being real serious, you have to get her to tell her parents.
If her parents have a problem with you, they can deal with it themselves
because it's not THEM getting married and in love, it's that girl.
You can tell them yourself, if not, or both of you together.
Forget about the prepation,
forget about her not being able to go against her parents.
Right now, it's just you and her,
or do you want it to be HER AND HIM?
2006-08-07 06:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by somethingsovague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was also into a same situation some year bak. i loved to a guy for 7 years. but atlast i married some one. but in my case he was not not practical, not well educated, no job, not rich. now im very much happy. otherwise i woulb be an unlucky one!
if u've all this y her parents r not allowing? ask ur parents to convince them , if ur matured enough to marry. otherwise let her live with the other guy. its her parents decision no, they wont be wrong. u may not like my opinion but im practical.
time can erase every memories.
2006-08-07 06:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by amsu06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend have decided to abide to her parents wish of marrying the one they arranged with for her..then you can do nothing more but to accept it....But talking to her and made her realized that marrying someone you never love is like committing suicide, and most likely will ruin her entire life...then she might have second thoughts and go with you....Goodluck!!!!
2006-08-07 06:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to marry you since she loves you. She has to go to her parents and put her foot down and say this is not going to happen I love someone else and its my life. then you need to ask her what she wants and if she wants to be with you then can she handle not having her parents approval.
2006-08-07 06:58:39 · answer #7 · answered by envisiondreaming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indian poeple need to stop ruining thier kids lives
Indians are crazy to marry kids to people they have never met before
Do what romeo and juliet did, both drink poison, and lets see who is going to be getting married
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i dont responsible for anything i just said
if you dont do anything now, you will regret it when theyre married, and move far away from you where you will never see her again,
2006-08-07 06:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by Fowl Language 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you got the money go and leave the country and marry her you fool if you do not have the money then try to marry her in your country hope this helps
2006-08-07 06:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by stefania_n2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-07 07:41:40 · answer #10 · answered by Raman N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋