do you think that being a gay parent is okey?

Question

i am sincerely against gay parents...how can they raise a normal kid?
i honestly think that children shouldn't come in contact with gay people until they are mature enough.
adopting kids is a noble act,but only if u can raise him properly...and gay/lesby/transexuals cannot do that!!!

Answer 1

Actually being raised by gay parents will make them more considerate and tolerant of others! What do you think of as a normal kid? Do you mean straight and narrow-minded? Most kids raised by gay people are actually straight! Who are you to say that gay people can't raise a child properly? I know a lot of straight people who are horrible parents! Kids should be exposed to gay people so they won't grow up to be ignorant like you!

Answer 2

Seriously, it amazes me that people like you can ask questions like this when all you have to do is go read a book or two, or actually visit with some gay couple who have raised children.

First of all, if straight parents can raise gay children, then gay parents can raise straight children. And this has been done over and over again.

Secondly, who are you to tell any parent that they can or cannot raise their own children? It's not your decision and it never will be. When I have kids (though I will need to go to a sperm bank to make them), they will still be my kids and my wives and we will raise however we see fit. Whether they turn out straight or gay, they will be our children and not yours, the government, or anybody elses.

By the way, if straight parenting is so wonderful, why are there so many divorces?
Divorces were invented because of straight people.

Answer 3

I am a straight female.

I believe that homosexual or transexuals have every right to be able to love, and raise a family. People are people, with emotions and feelings and should deserve equal rights in every aspect of life whether it be marriage, children, healthcare or just the way they are treated by others, regardless of sexual preference, color, ethnicity, religion etc.

I believe that often times children raised in homes with same sex or transgendered homes have an advantage because they are raised to be open minded, accepting and loving of people for who they are not what they are and who they love.

As far as gay parents raising a normal child, I dont really understand what the sexual preference of the adult has to do with anything. Who is to say what normal is anyway? People like Charles Manson and Jeffrey Dahmer were raised in "straight" households and look how they turned out. There is no guarentee how someone will turn out even if all the circumstances of their upbringings were "perfect" they could still turn out badly. I guess what I am trying to say is that regardless of sexuality, if the parents are responsible and teach their children right from wrong and provide for them and love and nurture and care for them, then why shouldnt they be allowed to? I know that there are alot of homosexuals who would love to be parents but find it difficult due to the negative way that people perceive them, yet we allow hundreds of thousands of children to grow up in orphanages and homes where they are not accurately cared for and seen after. Doesnt make sense. Period.

Answer 4

Yes I think gay parents try to do a wonderful job in raising their kids - just like the majority of heterosexual parents. Bearing in mind that sexual orientation is NOT an issue when raising children (after all they're not sex objects - they're your kids) I don't understand why people make such a song and dance about it. The child is not going to be influenced into (magically) turning gay - they will likely be far more accepting of differing sexual orientations and not be prejudiced into thinking that one is more correct than another.

Try watching La Cage aux Folles (or The Birdcage - if you can stand Robin Williams) for a humorous view on gays raising children.

Answer 5

how about this, do you think that growing up in an abusive environment, (either physical or verbal) with straight parents is better than growing up in a gay house with two loving parents?

I'm not gay and admit that the child may miss out on some things, but being gay is not a disease that can be passed on and if the child is loved and cared for I don't see a problem with it. As for your comments about kids not coming into contact with gays until their mature....please segregation went out in the 60's your living in the past, gay people are here and are good people just because you don't understand the culture/lifestyle doesn't make it bad unless your a christian fundamentalist!

Answer 6

if you think being a gay parent will result in having a gay child, then you need an education. obviously, you have a lot of bias here. I, like every gay/lesbian I know, were raised by STRAIGHT parents! I knew NO ONE gay growing up, nor did I meet anyone gay until after I realized I was. so, hmm, nurture? outside influences? that's a load of crap! and all the gay couples I know who have kids....those kids are straight. so, you're theory is just that....theory. based on fear and ignorance. you must not know any gay people?
raising kids "properly"? that means raising them not to hate!

Answer 7

You make allot of assumptions in your question. How do you know that gays can't raise a child properly? The evidence shows that gay parents are just as suitable for raising children as heterosexual parents. Why should children not be exposed to gays? You seem to assume that a gay relationship is only about sex. If this were the case, I could see your point, but as a Gay man myself, I can tell you that sex is only a minor part of my relationship with my partner. If we were to adopt, (which we are seriously considering) the topic of sexuality would not be an issue for our child until he or she is old enough to understand it. You may think that my partner and I, as loving people with a low emphasis on sex, are the exception rather than the rule. However, as far as couples who raise children (or would like to,) I'd say that we are the rule rather than the exception. I think allot of heterosexuals have a misconception about gay people that we are lustful creatures that only have sex on our minds. This couldn't be further from the truth. Sex is of course part of our lives, but a lasting love-filled relationship is far more important to most gay people than lustful sex. I think you'd be hard pressed to find a similar situation among heterosexual couples trying to adopt.

Answer 8

First off, why would you even think of coming into a gay forum with such a question?

But lets turn it around. Do you believe that straight parents should be allowed to care for gay children? Of course, they do it every day.

Your attitude comes from ingrained misunderstanding of who a gay adult is, and from some deep seated bigotry. Why would you think that a gay person isn't able to raise a child properly? If by raising a child properly, you mean teaching him to hate, as you apparently were raised, I take issue with your premise.

Answer 9

Then should single people be able to raise children? There's more evidence against single parents than there is against gay parents. And look at all the abusive straight parents.
I was brought up around gay people, and I've grown up to be more accepting and open minded than most people I know.
As far as I'm concerned, as long as you can love the child, provide a warm and safe home for them, and bring them up to be the best person they can be, then they are fit to be a parent.

Answer 10

What is normal to you? A heterosexual person as yourself someone how is being judge mental? People, parents like you is the reason why 1/3 of gay/lesbian/bi/trans gender people commit suicide a year.why the other half of them are beat up every other day in school, tormented, made fun of every waking day. Being a parent has nothing to do with sexual orientation, race, color, ethnic, a persons past, their profession nor anything else. A good parent comes from your heart anyone can be a parent if they are dedicated enough. A healthy Child needs love, support, shelter, patience, knowledge, acceptance, well understanding of different people and their feelings and well teachings. Who are you to say that fathers can't do that nor two mothers, my wife and myself are raising a child just as well as your are or will one day. A gay/lesbian/bi/trans gender person is born not made thank you very much. I think most everyone will agree with me on WE DON'T NEED ANYMORE IGNORANT PEOPLE LIKE YOU IN THIS WORLD!