I recently caught my wife in an affair with my friend. We have been married 25 years. I also recently found out that she seduced my then 13 year old brother into sex soon after we were married. That went on for some years. I suspect she has had some other affairs over the years as well. She is at her mother`s now and of course I am the bad guy from their view point.
2006-08-06 22:57:08 · 24 answers · asked by surferjoefk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
opt for divorce if both of you wants to seperate
2006-08-06 23:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is WHY didn't someone press charges against your wife for satutory rape when your brother was only 13? Your wife has some serious HEAD issues that need to be dealt with by a Psychitrist or a Psychologist.
I think you probably already know that she's been committing these acts of infedelity for the entire duration of your marriage. Why didn't you do something about it when you obviously knew what was going on.
Your mother-in-law obviously is clueless about the truth of the story and if you wife would lie about her indescretions and sexual cahorting around then she would obviously lie about anything to make her self in a good light with her parents.
Cut your losses.....File for divorce...Once a partner has gapped the bridge of trust it would be very difficult to build a relationship again.
You also need to go to the DR. and have yourself tested for HIV/AID or any other nasty STD. Your wife doesn't sound to particular of whom she beds with...Better safe than DEAD!!
2006-08-06 23:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now a days, you are living alone forcibly and you can understand the importance of your wife. Marriage is adjustment, understanding and mutual trust between two unknown souls. Try to understand each other, sometimes what we hear or see is not true.Have conversation each other in an healthy atmosphere and right earnest. If some body has committed mistakes inadvertently, he or she will realize and apologize and on the policy of forget and forgive you pull on the life happily.
2006-08-06 23:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by Subhash M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women have more sexual inclination so they try to fine safer sex else where. as with your 13 years old brother. & may be she is not satisfied with you fully. Talk to her about this & if you both do not have any objection ( at it looks for last 25 years of your married life) Then let her continue & you also enjoy
2006-08-06 23:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by narendra k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you aware....
Here in Washington State, so I'm going to guess it may be true in many other states as well, if you have 1st hand knowledge about child abuse sexual or otherwise (ie your knowledge of your wife's sex with a 13 year old) and don't report it - meaning you are helping her hide her actions/behavior, the law labels you a co-conspirator in the child abuse and you my dear sir can go to prison as well.
Just something to think about....
...You might want to check with a lawyer (and be quick about it)
2006-08-09 05:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by charlie_2you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say totally divorce her. Its in no way your fault that she can't keep her legs together. And a damn 13 year old? My god she could have been put in jail and should have been is what I say. But just plainly divorce her and be lucky right now you don't have an STD or something.
2006-08-06 23:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this hurts, but, once a cheat, always a cheat! I realize it will be hard, but she belongs at the curb with the rest of the garbage! Don't expect any changes even after all the "sorrys" are over! And your trust for her is gone! (even though you'll try!). - I'm sorry!!
2006-08-06 23:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you realize the cold relationship between you and your wife? Did you give enough time to your wife?
Are you loyal with your wife?
If you are totally OK, then only you can blame to your wife.......otherwise, you are also the key responsible for anything happening within your family.
2006-08-06 23:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya I bet you are of course they only hear her story, ask yourself this can I live with her? can I ever trust her again? and can I forgive her? If the answer is no to at least 2 of these cut your ties because it just won't work.
2006-08-06 23:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your wife is not commited to you. You are going to have3 to decide if you are willing to stay with her and if you want to deal with her issues of infidelity. You deserve to be treated better than this.
2006-08-07 02:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 00:02:44 · answer #11 · answered by wiemer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋