we both married, but we have been seeing each other for 7 weeks. I am kind of in love with him, but how do I know he loves me or just have fun with me? he seems enjoy spend time with me, but he still want to go home every Friday? he doesn't live at home during the week...we have great sex. how can I make him in love with me???
2006-08-06 22:40:05 · 49 answers · asked by Tomorrowalwaysbetter! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen to what your heart says.... follow your heart nothing else dont trust even your brain....
2006-08-14 13:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me get this straight. you are both married and having an affair.
he doesnt live with his family during the week and makes sure that he is going home on the weekends. does his wife know that you are in the picture?
you cant make anyone be in love with you. love takes time and a good foundation. a good foundation is built on trust. what makes you think that he can trust you? what makes you think that you can trust him?
take it for what it is. you are both messing around on your partners and its not love. that is called lust. the sex might be good right now, but for how long? until one of you find somebody else that looks a little bit better than what you have now?
wake up and smell the coffee. you are a fling and thats all its going to be. he is not about to tell his wife about you and you arent telling your husband about him.
you arent messing with a shining knight. you are messing with a man that already has obligations and a family
do you think he loves you enough to wreck his home and family for you?
i dont think so
2006-08-11 04:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are his plaything. He is your lover. You claim to be "kind of in love"? I think you enjoy each others company and sexuality. You and he are playing with fire. You are not only hurting the people you are married to but children born in the marriages as well as each other. Morally and ethically it is wrong to cheat on a spouse. If you want a lover then get a divorce, don't continue this relationship, it's a tragedy waiting to happen.
2006-08-14 18:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make someone love them. If he truly love you he will show you in many ways. More than likely ( and I am not trying to hurt you...just prepare you) this is a fun thing for him born out of sex. Unless you plan to leave your significant other, I would just enjoy it for what it is and not try and make it something it ain't.
What make you think that if the relationship became more serious that he wouldn't then cheat on you? What makes you think that he wouldn't feel that you wouldn't cheat on him as you are now with your husband?
2006-08-06 22:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are his play toy. A cheep one.
Ok, so you are saying you are married and he is married.....and those vows mean what? Nothing I guess.
The chances of him leaving her and getting with you is next to zero. And, if he is with you, you best be sure he will have another woman on the side. What part of this means there is love?
You can't make him love you. You are just his whore. He will sweet talk you and make you believe in him.
Get some self respect. Go home to your husband and be honest and true to him. Let your lover know that if he continues to F you that you need to be paid, because that is all you are is a piece of...you know what
2006-08-06 22:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't *make* someone fall in love with you, for starters.
Secondly, I think you need to focus more on whether you love your SPOUSE or not. I don't know the situations of either of your marriages, but common sense 101: If you're in a bad marriage where you know there is no way to repair it, then you divorce your spouse before you start messing around with someone else. Not to mention the fact that if he's messing around on someone he's married to, what are the chances that he will be faithful to you? Is that the kind of *love* that you want?
My advice is to break it off with him and go see a marriage counselor.
2006-08-14 22:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok listen up! Got your ears open! Good! You are his sex partner during the week and he goes back to his wife on the weekend. Now, I want you to really think about this, ok? Now, he is married, and cheating on his wife with you.
You are married and cheating on your husband with him! You are not in love with him, you are in love with great sex, the challenge of not getting caught, you guy's enjoy playing the game.
Hate to lay it out like this but, he doesn't love you, he just loves screwing you during the week.
How can you be in love with a man that is cheating on his own wife!
If he cheats with you, later on, he will cheat on you, when the next pretty piece of *** comes across his weekly path!
Go back to your husband and make it work or get out of the relationship, don't cheat on your man, at least be woman enough to tell him you are not in love with him, then bounce out of his life for good!
And find someone who wants you monday thru sundays, not just part of the week! Otherwise you are showing how cheap you are and how easily available you can be when he needs a good F--K!
2006-08-13 18:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by cherrypopsickle2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to have fun. If you think about it. you're not in love either. It's the excitement of the situation that makes it so much fun, so of course, you think you're in love. But really honey, you're not. Has he ever said the words I Love You. I'm sure he hasn't, and he's not going to. He has the best of both worlds. What he's not getting from home, he's getting from you. Don't play with your feelings, you might end up hurt. Use him like he's using you.
2006-08-12 02:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by lady love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are big time cheaters. Ask yourself, why you are cheating on your husband! You went out and had sex with somebody elses husband. If your husband can't please you sexually, than go for a single guy and divorce your husband. You are not in love with this man you just have great sex with him and this is probabably true for the married guy. You made yourself availabe to him and having sex is better than masturbating. Get real, this is a man who wants to go home to his family and spend the weekend with them. Don't destroy his marriage!
2006-08-13 08:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are the two of you married to each other? If you are then you should have taken your time before you married each other. Rushing into it as you may see is a terrible thing to do!!!!! If the two of you are married you should have it annulled!!!!
Especially when you guys have only known one another for 7 weeks! And if you are not married to him then you should tell him to HIT THE ROAD!!!!!!
Good Luck!!!!
2006-08-13 05:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you. You are a fling only. Any woman that is married or not married that will have an affair with a married man cannot be trusted, is not strong, and is NEVER a good catch and that man will never respect you, trust you, or trully love you.
Go back to your man or get a divorce and leave this other man alone.
2006-08-06 22:45:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋