I'm still a virgin by choice. Im very openminded to sex and want to try everything but nooo i have morals. I want to lose it to someone i truelly love and loves me. Problem is im getting impatient. Its hard enough finding a date but falling in love with a guy? Should i just find someone i trust and have sex with them so i can go have fun or keep waiting for that guy and do those things with him?
2006-08-06 22:17:16 · 23 answers · asked by andthatshypocricy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i always look to the future if you saw my business question. I know what gets me off because.. well Ive spent alot of time with myself but I was just wondering how i would go about that. I read in vogues about how to chose the right botox surgeon or what to wear in my 60's. doesnt mean its now
2006-08-06 22:26:01 · update #1
and ps ps. i'm 16. I know i'll hear alot of waits but i was expected to have sex first and just about everyone has had sex... It just seems harder for me because i had my first sexual experience when i was 6. don't judge it wasnt my choice. so if that helps the answer there ya go
2006-08-06 22:32:01 · update #2
you dont have to be in love to lose it
2006-08-06 22:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a loser. How old are you? I think sex is not at all for getting rid of virginity's sake. You should be in love first. I lost my virginity when I was 25 and a half and I have no regrets of having waited for so long. I would have rather regretted to have lost it long ago to some guy I was only feeling physically attracted to or to have waited till marriage just cause this is what church wants us to do. It depends on person only and we're the only one who know what's best for us and what keeps us happy. For the urge feeling, there are other options, too, to ease you for the moment.
2006-08-07 05:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by DreamGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very young to me. Sexual relationships are for adults. There are reasons for that, if you cannot handle the consequences of a sexual relationship, you should not have one. I am speaking of not only STD's, including HIV, pregnancy, I am speaking of the emotional roller coaster it will bring into your life. It is a very serious thing, a lot of people don't treat it as such, but it is. It will mess with your mind if you are not ready. You will feel used and abused, if you are not ready. It needs to happen between two consenting adults, preferably in a marriage. You will never ever regret waiting, I promise you that, but you may very well regret doing it too soon. I wish you the best. Having morals is a good thing. Standing up for what you believe is an admirable thing.
2006-08-07 05:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by sleepless in the ATL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lt would be a waste of time to have sex with someone you are not in Love with.Keep searching no matter how long it takes. l felt the same way until l just gave in the someone l felt nothing for it was not worth it.l felt very depressed after. The friends l had were the real losers because they are throwing their Love away. Don't be a fool save it for real Love no matter how old you are when you find it.
2006-08-07 05:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old you are but my thought is the thought is going to wear on you. I am just trying to be realistic sure best to wait if you can. Once you start getting the feelings and those urges all through your body and your mind starts to work on you its time to find someone a good friend or someone you are comfortable with, good luck and enjoy.
2006-08-07 05:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never want to live your life with regrets. When THAT guy comes along and he's become your world, you don't want some story to come back and haunt you where it would jeopordize your chance with him.
Besides, you never want to have sex because you're getting impatient. it won't be as incredible as you think it will be. make sure that you'll emotionally ready. some girls have sex and then think that they're in love with the guy when the guy just wanted a good time with no strings attached. That makes for an ugly ugly scene with your crying and mascara running down your face! =P
2006-08-07 05:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by Parkster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morals are good. So is saving yourself for someone you love. Do whichever you want, but waiting for one you love WILL be worth it when it happens. Don't just have sex with anyone...and as to knowing what gets you off, that's a good thing 'cuz you can let your future mate know what you like. Enjoy your time with yourself, 'cuz when you have sex, it'll be better with one you love than with one you just like.
2006-08-07 05:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait for a guy that will value you. he doesn't have to be the love of your life but don't go doing it with a jerk either. and don't do it with a good friend, it'll change your friendship for the worse. and your age has a great deal to do with this too. if you're still a teenager then i'd say wait longer anyway.
2006-08-07 05:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by magginine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait~
don't give yourself away just out of curiosity. I waited until I got married and I have never been sorry. The best thing about it was that no one tried me first and then dumped me, like is the norm now.
2006-08-07 06:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah don't wait. Have sex enjoy it. its a natural thing. you will do it sooner or later and it will feel good eventually. why wait. very few women enjoy sex at first takes a few times to learn how to orgasm so why wait on it? it would be like baking a cake and not eating it. another thing if you do want to try to remain a Virgin.... try Anal/Oral.
2006-08-07 05:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by Chewie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Make him kinky?
If theres something that I like that really gets me off but isn't his thing, should I make him do it anyway? or compromise and find common ground somewhere "
Is THIS part of your whole keeping your virginity thing? How do you KNOW what "gets me off" if you've never had sex? hmmmm? Or are you just looking ahead to the future. Whatever.
2006-08-07 05:22:49 · answer #11 · answered by grahamma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋