Jealous women?

Question

My wife seems to suspect me of unfaithfulness, and even accuses me of having an affair. As an example, if I go to have my haircut, and it happens to be an attractive woman who cuts my hair, when I get home, in order to prevent an interrogation I have to tell my wife that a man cut my hair.
I've always been completely faithfull, but am starting to wonder that if my wife suspects me of infidelity no matter what I do, then I may as well commit infidelity.

Any one else have this experience? What's the best way of dealing with it?

Answer 1

Don't be unfaithful this will just confirm any suspicions she may have had.

Answer 2

Maybe u have done something or got caught lying to ur wife before. A wife dont usually suspect her husband is unfaithful unless there was something making her like that. The best way to deal with it is by always tell the truth to ur wife and show her that u are faithful.

If u say that u may as well commit infidelity,,,then I guess u are not a good husband after all.

Answer 3

A lot of women are insanly jealous for no apparent reason. Perhaps someone has been unfaithful to her in the past, and whilst that's not your fault, she's taking it out on you.

I don't think that you should be unfaithful though. Perhaps you should just try and reassure her. However at the same time, she needs to know that if she carries on it could lead to your relationship breaking down anyway as it will completely do your head in.

Answer 4

give your wife lots of love and reassurance BUT do not lie to her over insignificant things. if a woman cuts your hair, tell your wife, because if she was to walk past the hairdressers and see no blokes working there your screwed.

This is ultimately your wifes problem, so if she's being unrteasonable, calmly tell her why. always end the discussion with a big hug so she knows you care.

it will be really hard at first, but eventually your wife will see that other women are not a temptation to you and will begin to trust you. whatever you do - DO NOT cheat on her!!!! else you really will have a tough battle on your hands then

good luck

Answer 5

perhaps she is feeling insecure? has she put on weight or lost a lot recently, when was the last time you guys went out? is she bored, check it out with her first. As a rule jealous people are like that from the start of a relationship, so if she has changed something may be bothering her, it may not be you.. we always target the nearest and dearest. for my part, my husband goes out with his mates, goes on scuba diving holidays alone, i also do my own hobbies and we find time to go out together.. do you have very young kiddies? does she want another or first kiddie? talk to her - check out hows she is feeling.. don't lie, as if some one tells her they saw you having a hair cut by a woman, and you have said differently- this will add fuel to the fire.. compliment her, .. just talk, if its BAD, try counselling..having a fling would throw the whole of your lives into chaos.. not worth it, unless you are looking for an excuse to get out, which it does not seem so? good luck.

Answer 6

If this attitude of hers is completely out of the blue, if you haven't been naughty in the past for her to have a reason to be nasty to you,then I suspect she is a very insecure person. You really need to talk, and seek councelling if you BOTH still love each other. She on the other hand might be the one cheating and is looking for an excuse to leave you. If things don't change, you might have to tell her that you can't carry on without trust and may need to part.

Answer 7

OH my gosh that sounds like how i used to be with my hubby. When me and my partner first met i was lively outgoing not gorgeous but ok looking. We got on like a house on fire, then a few months after meeting we had a car accident i broke my hip and my thigh and any self confidence or esteem went the day of that accident. I didnt like him going to the barbers the local co op i made him stop doing martial arts, if he was 5 minutes late from work i thought he was having an affair, i even accused him of having an affair with the 60year old bookkeeper. 3 years on and a lot of rehabilitation im reborn and thanks to god all my insecurities have gone otherwise i know he would of left me. Has anything similar happened with your wife. she most probably cant help it and is insecure with her and is worried sick you will leave her. x

Answer 8

Fearful woman... She has issues with someone else's unfaithfulness. She doesnt love you if she doesnt trust you, they are one in the same. The real trust is in not needing for the other to be "faithful" and simply appriciating what you have together without placing contract agreements on feelings. Your lies only enable her problem. Confront it with understanding and patience and help her work through this. Jealousy is not acceptable behavior. We don't accuse people of their future actions and intentions without resonable evidence. And why should she spend all her time looking for that evidence to come up. Your thinking is exactly what this leads to. She is placing an expectation on you that you can't help but fullfill. If she truely doesnt want you to cheat, then she shouldn't be looking for you to do it.

Answer 9

Their has to be a reason for her suspicious mind even if its nothing to do with you, she could have had a bad experience in a past relationship. The two of you need to sit down and talk find out the root of the problem...cheating is not the answer, 2 wrongs dont make a right.

Answer 10

that's interesting. is her lack of trust in you based on her own insecurities or is it because of actions you've committed? are you a flirt? do you have a wandering eye? even if you are not cheating maybe you give off the impression that you're on the prowl. either way you need to have a serious talk with her and tell her exactly what you've said here. clear the air and then see what happens from there. she may not be the one for you if she is so insecure that she can't get past this.

Answer 11

I was subjected to a jealous husband for many years, the torment is beyond belief so I feel for you! I stopped socialising full stop as husband wanted to know who I'd seen, who I'd spoken to etc, then did I speak about him? If no, why was I ashamed, if yes, was I slagging him off, couldnt win! I walked away in the end as I couldnt take it. All I can suggest is that you keep making an effort to make her feel special, that she's the only one, and try not to argue about it, however, it may be something very deep rooted that you will never solve, try to keep life as simple and as calm as possible...