If your wife suffered significant trauma that left her unable to have physical relations for life that were caused by childbirth after being newly married and you were both young what would you do about it all? Would you feel guilty?
2006-08-06 21:53:29 · 14 answers · asked by annabellerenea 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think the guilty part comes from the whole we decided to have children...it was an elective thing... and I love that infernal is able to switch it around!
2006-08-06 22:03:37 · update #1
Ben,
thank you for telling the truth about your feelings. I think too it helps that you are dealing with all the worries of fatherhood right now! Yes this did happen to us and he has apologized again and again and we have had counseling. We have pretty much moved on about the loss of no more children and the difficulites I deal with physically (not sexually) but this seems to be our hurdle that we are having a hard time overcoming.
2006-08-06 22:07:43 · update #2
I mean the sexual dsyfunction is the ongoing battle.
2006-08-06 22:08:34 · update #3
budlow, loved your answer lol... but the truth is I did go back to the original Dr. and many others and actually ended up losing other parts so without too much detail and gobs of money to see if there is anymore fixing to be done we are pretty much just left to deal!
2006-08-07 02:52:57 · update #4
No, I guess this would be something that you would have to take in your stride and move on (togther that is...). If one partner suffers a certian disability no matter what it is, the other must stand by him/her. As in the question if the tables are turned - what would we expect.
It's more about love and less about physical relationship.
But that's my view.
2006-08-06 22:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by Infernal Monarch 2 · 9⤊ 1⤋
Yes I would feel guilty if it was my child.
My wife is dune in 7 weeks and if this happened it would be extremely hard to deal with. We have been together for 7 years and this is going to be our 1st child. I honestly don't know how we would cope with this. If this has happened to you I'm very sorry for you.
But if it has happened the the best thing I can propose is that you both move on (after he has told you how sorry he is) life is more than sex (although It is a big factor) you can find other things to do I'm sure.
You would probably need to talk these issues through with a 3rd party, otherwise it will eat you guys up.
Good luck
2006-08-07 05:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by Blurb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF??? Trauma to what? Mental or physical? I would take you back to the doctor that "forgot" to "finnish " and make HIM fix you!!!Just like when your waiter forgets to bring you a knife for your steak-(you make him go get you one) you don't just say thats ok and then take it home and look at it for the rest of your life, wondering what it tastes like,do ya? Hell no !!!Or you go to jiffy-lube for a L.O.F. and they forget to fill the oil, do you just leave and drive your car with no oil? NO I'M SORRY BUT YOUR GETTING A "NEW ONE" i don't care where they have to put it ....your not gonna get out of it that easy!!! And I wouldn't feel guilty one bit- but I know what you would be "feeling" everyday!!!
2006-08-07 05:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by budlowsbro420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did your wife ever tell you about it before you both get married ?
If she is and you still marry her thatn means you make a choice, so now you have to deal with the consequences...be a man and face it.
When you love her physical is not the only thing you can crave about, adopt a child...for sexual life...you still can do felatio or any other stuff to do.
But please stand for what you choose, that what makes a man, to determine who you really are.
2006-08-07 06:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by bu eng kim jiu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilty? What guilt if it happened durring child birth?
What would I do? Probably find other ways to make love. Got some fetishes you could work on?
2006-08-07 04:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by pickle head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you go for a union you go for life.That is it.What is there to ask about it.I would stay with my wife till one of us departs from the face of the earth.There is no question of any guilt.Imagine your self in her place.What would you have done?
2006-08-07 05:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a type of new counseling specifically for trauma.
Traumatic incident reduction. go to: TIR.org
2006-08-07 06:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by Simple green is people! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but the truth is u need to go to 24 hour fitness right away... might be ur best best sweety
2006-08-07 06:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd stay with her out of love, but try to find another outlet to release the physical (and sexual) tension.
2006-08-07 04:58:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toughie! Depends on how much (real) love is in the relationship.
2006-08-07 04:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by virgoascendant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋