If you or your spouse had suffered trauma leaving them unable to have a physical relationship would your marriage survive? Especially if you were young and newly married? I know there are "other" things a couple can do..., but let's say that those things were emotionally trying because they dredged up cirucumstances related to the original trauma? So what would you say the percentage of survival for such a marriage would be?
2006-08-06 21:32:30 · 7 answers · asked by annabellerenea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BTW, ours is surviving without cheating so far and it has been 2 1/2 years...still interesting to see the answers thus far! and yes it does suck but we too have compensated.
2006-08-06 21:41:45 · update #1
Oh clcalifornia if only they dedicated as much research on women's sexual dysfunctions as they have to mens! LOL ;P
2006-08-06 21:44:01 · update #2
sleepless, it helps to hear that marriage is still sacred for other people too!
2006-08-06 21:47:53 · update #3
My marriage would survive because we have a love that is very deep and strong and we feel connected in every way. However a sexual relationship is important it's not the only thing that makes a marriage work.A marriage is a commitment based on mutual love, respect, acceptance and trust. I do not know what the trauma is but sometimes bad things happen to bring two people closer together and make the connection that they both share stronger and able to survive every problem that comes your way.
You are both young and it will be very hard on both of you but if there's enough love and respect between the two of you it can work out. Maybe you could try to get advice and help on how to deal with this by a special therapist who knows about this because it would be very sad if the two of you would lose your love and respect for each other over this.
I hope that the two of you will find a way with this and that it will make the love between you grow stronger and into something very special and that there is a way to overcome the trauma that has happened.
I wish you both a lot of strength, love and all the best. I will be thinking about you.
2006-08-07 01:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by aysha 4 · 10⤊ 1⤋
I truly believe it would be the level of commitment. Marriage is difficult anyway, and with out a physical relationship it would be harder. People have needs. I do have a friend who was hurt very badly in a motorcycle crash back in the early eighties. She had only been married for a couple of months. She was probably 21 or so at the time. Her husband was around 27. She was paralyzed and in a coma for years. She eventually came out of the coma, but is still paralyzed from the neck down, and she cannot communicate. She is more like a child. But guess what? He is still with her. They believe in eternal marriage, and he believes in the next life they will be together. I hope so. He is an awesome person and truly loved his wife.
2006-08-06 21:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by sleepless in the ATL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes....if you truly love a person, a marriage can survive if you can't have a physical relationship, as sex isn't everything. My partner is going through a trauma at the moment, and we cant have a physical relationship, but we have lots of hugs, cuddles, and kisses. Regardless of how this situation turns out, I will never leave him. The percentages of surviving a marriage in this way, depends on how much you love your partner, and how much you honour your vows .......in sickness and in health.
2006-08-06 21:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by V P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure what the trauma was, but there are all sorts of ways to get an errection. PUmps being one.
Maybe I am assuming the wrong thing.
Some marriages would surrive no matter what came their way.
Others crumble at the smallest bump in the road.
Others, like mine went on too long considering the circumstances
2006-08-06 21:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is not only based on sex! The two of you can make love with one another in many other different ways! Cuddling together on the couch/bed and hugging, kissing, & playing, and watching T.V. with one another, having a romantic dinner and showing & telling each other how much you guys love being with each other, and how much you enjoy each others company,should make the two of you very happy! If the two of you are truly in love with one another, nothing should cause a problem with your marriage!!!!
Good Luck!!!!
2006-08-07 01:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult, and it is not a nice situation to be stuck in. Would it survive? Maybe, but honestly with some amount of cheating. However somebody I know is taking care of her paralyzed husband, for years, and there is a man who is with his wife who had an early onset of dementia.
But I understand the person who would difficult.
2006-08-06 21:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by 40andgoing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine woud be intact. we built our relationship many different levels. I have noticed that wehn one area is low in the attention area, we have compinsated in other ways.
2006-08-06 21:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋