I failed..........in everything.. I m dying..?

Question

Hi evry1...I just want to confess u all something...I failed in everything....I tried to put smiles on some faces bt I was unsuccessful..My brother hates me.....My father thinks I m good 4 nothing...I have no friends where I m staying now...No 1 cares abt me..My cousin sister, the only one who cared abt me is nt with me for 2 yrs now...The girl whom I loved is married now to some1 else bcoz of her father..People think i just irritate them..May be i m irritating u all too who's reading this....May be no 1's reading this cuz no1 bothers abt me..I failed in life. Now I came to know I HAVE A BRAIN TUMER in the last stage and I hardly have 6 MONTHS TO LIVE..Now suddenly evry1 started loving me bt I know they r just showing sympathy to me..Can any1 tell me y shud i live those six months also if some1's reading this...Sorry 4 making u all bored..

May be my death will decrease the no. of persons living 4 no use by 1...Isnt that joyful....C-mon enjoy u all

Thanks for everyone who replied..Some of u really gave sound advices.. But I think there's no use of all this now..Everything is over now.I wud just like to correct anything wrong i did to some1 in these remaining months..And I m changed..I'll never be the same person again wat i used to be..Good luck to everyone...Byee

Answer 1

You are not useless. Just by writing this, you've inspired people. You've inspired me to be a better person. To appreciate life more. I wish you all the best in your life.

Answer 2

There is a soap opera with the similar storyline. So, I thought about what I would do in that situation. I think I'd experience much of freedom and life as possilbe: hop on a plane on a stand by and go somewhere quick and have lunch while pretending to be someone else, go sky-diving, go to or rent many movies that will allow me to live out unreal life vicariously, etc. Oh, I also want to find a mob boss and shake his hand, hoping to understand how he got to where he is and why. (This probalby will never happen, though.) I'd also go to the beach and tell all my secrets to the surfs; go to Britain and kiss the palace guard (they're not supposed to move, but I want to see if I could get them excited), pick a day where I would only tell the truth no matter how awful... and many many more.

I don't plan on telling anyone because I don't want them to look at me differently and treat me with sachrine sympathy. But, I will write everything out for them to let them know that I accept them for the way they are and that I do love them.

So you say you only have 6 months left. But, you know, a perfectly healthy person could get hit by a car and die 6mon from now. The advantage you have is that you know yours is coming so you can prepare properly. You knwo your last day is coming, so I'd like to suggest that you make a list of things you'd like to do and do it. If others know about your situation, they'll be understanding and maybe even helpful.

Answer 3

First, getting news like 'you have six months left to live' is something that can get you down. Don't let it defeat you. The things in life that matter will become very important to you now. Most of us walk around in a fog about what really matters so you have an opportunity to contribute a unique perspective to society.

Second, I believe God can heal those who ask Him to. Whether by the hand of the trained physicians or by His own through a miracle, He can heal whom He chooses, but He generally doesn't unless He is asked. Start seeking Him and He will meet you where you are. Let God use your brand new perspective to teach you about Himself.

Third, if you were as friendless as you say you were, perhaps you needed to be a better friend. Get away from self centeredness, start thinking of ways you can bless those around you and watch the change in their behavior toward you even now with the knowledge of your condition. My experience with people going through things like this is that they tend to get stand offish. I mean, what do you say to someone going through something you have no way to relate to?

Finally, yes you should absolutely live out your life, even if God won't heal you, you have an obligation to be the best person you can be for those who love you. There is a man whom I listen to all the time. He wrote a book called "Happiness is a Serious Problem" and I recommend you get it and read it. The author's name is Dennis Prager. You can read his archival newspaper articles at http://www.townhall.com/columnists/dennisprager/archive.shtml
but the book has the most to offer you at this point. Get involved with a Bible believing church. They can offer you great hope, and some there will be able to help you pray for healing and others can minister to you till the end if healing doesn't come. May God bless you as He does me.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry to read that. It's a terrible thing to find out.
Use what money you have and do everything you ever wanted to do. Don't go out miserable, that's no way to die.
I'm sure your family loves you and always has, your thoughts are likely the result of depression, which is a result of finding out you're dying.
You can see it as something horrible, or you can see it as a kind of blessing. Most of us don't know when we are going to die. This way you can plan to do things you want to do. Those of us who die young, usually don't know it, and we go to school and build a career and do things we don't want to do, and then "bam" we're hit by a bus, before we have a chance to take that trip to Europe or go sky diving, something we planned on doing "in a couple years". I know this sounds insensitive, but me telling you how sorry I am for you wont' do you any damn good right now.
So you can wait around for it, while people tell you they love you and send you bouquets, or you can go out and you can make the most of what time you do have. You can pack a lot of fun into 6 months. Making yourself happy is what's important right now, not dwelling on the past or the future, but right now.

You have an opportunity to make the most of the rest of your life because you know how long you have.
I suggest you go live.

Answer 5

Well I relly think that if you are able to ffuntion on a higher level that is walk talk and feed yourself then enjoy these people and what they are offering you . It is best to see this time as a tribute to you the person not your accomplishments or lack thereof. You see yourself as a failure get over it time is too short for circumspection you are a viable person now, later maybe not so. If ending it all is your wish then get a living will done that states that when you are in the end phase that you want no heroic measures performed on you. Now go enjoy what these people are trying to give you and go out with dignity not a pity party! reaper out........

Answer 6

you may have failed in those areas of your life, but with the time you have you should Make the best of it. do something differedont in your life you hadn't done before. make a difference with what you have left, and through away or better yet gone head and bust those black pity balloons. i know personally those that were given death sentences and are still here. why don't you fight it. i have a debilitating illness and yes sometimes it gets to me but this is my life and i am gonna beat this just as you can an will. what are the things that you want to do in life. there are too many options, for one, research. then you can start with a positive attitude. if you d9nt love yourself how can you allow anyone else too. we all fail at something, bubt we also suceed in others. find your sucess within yourself.

Answer 7

I'm really sorry to hear that you have a brain tumor, my friend died three years ago with the same thing he was 23 years old.
I think everyone is probably feeling a little guilty for being horrible to you and they just want to make it up, and for the time they have you just want to make you happy.
I think you there is every reason for you to live these 6 months, just do the things you have always wanted to do, write down everything you have ever dreamed about down and try to achieve as much as possible. Live your life to the full.
I hope you don't suffer and I'll be thinking of you
My prayers are with you x

Answer 8

Cheer up!
Lighten your heart while still on earth so your soul won't feel so heavy in the next life.
You and only you can help yourself..Don't try to drag people down when they try to lift you up.
I'm not bored at all reading your sentiments on the contrary,i really feel sorry for you and i mean that.
Not everyone shares the same fortune and shares the same happiness so why not welcome those pleasures even in its littlest form?
Forgive them and don't be so bitter..we are humans and we are allowed to make mistakes.
Even pencils have erasers ...think about that.
Pray for their souls so they would remember you as someone valuable til the end of their days too.
....and you'll be missed.God bless.

Answer 9

My sister just found out she had a brain tumer and the doc. said that she as six months to live , but you think she is going to die no way she is doing ever thing she can to say a live. if i had the time i would let you in on my life you think you have it bad .try to live don't give up i want to see you on this pc after the six months is up.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

wow i can relate to you alot man i mean not with the whole tumor thing but because ive felt alot lik u are feeling. about 5 years ago my parents divorced and i felt annoying and like it was my fault i felt that i should end my life i mean what should i live for right?i felt like no one cared. they tried to be nice but i felt it was a sympathetical nice not a sincere nice.in your case you only have 6 months left and although i or noone can do anything about ur condition maybe it took this incident for ur family to finally realize to appreciate you because i know that when they(my family) found out i nearly commited suicide they were nicer to me. just live the rest of your life as if you were king/queen and take advantage of the fact that at least you have 6 months left. do things you love doing and dont let anything hold you down especially your tumor because miracles happen all you have to do is believe