How do i find a new circle of friends?

Question

Over the past year or so i have started have less and less in common with my circle of friends, i just don't feel on the same wave-length anymore. They probably think i've got boring but i think i've just grown up and moved on a bit quicker than them. I really need a new circle of friends and a new social life for a 25 year old not an 18 year old. Any advice?

Lindz has got it spot on about how i feel!! I'm career minded and fed up fo going to the same dowdy club every week, i need more cultural and grown up friends who still know how to have a laugh! Thanks Lindz, that really helps!

Answer 1

I think at 25 Uni and School is done and dusted for her?

I felt like I had the exact same problem about a year ago, I just found I was moving in different circles to the friends I had. I know it might seem big headed and a little pompous but I was trying to get my life into gear, settle down with my then boyfriend, make some serious cash, get a career, stop acting like a dumbass 21 year old but they were still content working in fast food joints and clothing shops, getting drunk every night and sleeping with random guys... same thing we were doing at 16!
I also realised they werent the most reliable steadfast people to have around, always using me for cash, only inviting me out when there was no one better around and then disappearing off the face of the earth completely when something was going on with them only to abruptly reappear when whatever good thing was going down had ended. Bunch of useless b*tches! (still bitter!)

I'm 23 now and my life has changed so much, they're 23 as well and they are still doing it!!
So I went on the internet. Its cool if you have just one friend who is like you, its a platform to make some more. Go out, join some classes, yoga etc, join some book clubs, learn a language, dinner clubs.
I dont know where you are in the world but sites like

Myspace
Gumtree
Alike minds
Craigs List
Move that London Forum

all great, and nothing to be ashamed of you arent the only one, they all helped me move on with my life and leave my old selfish friends behind

good luck!

Answer 2

I know EXACTLY what you're going through as I am going through the same thing. It is very hard to move away from the group you've been hanging about with for so long, as if you try hanging with other groups, they are kinda like, ''Why aren't you with your friends?''. Sometimes you get the cold shoulder or ignored, and it isn't nice.

The only way around this is persistance. Don't force your company on other people, instead just start talking to them regularly, ask them things about how they're doing, what university they go to/want to go to. Maybe gradually start sitting with them now and again. Eventually they will accept you.

If your school, college or uni is holding any events where there will be a good mix of people, go along and start chatting to some people. Conversely, you could join a club.

Don't blow out your old friends completely, just move away and distance yourself a bit. If any of them asks you about it, be honest with them and tell them you don't feel like you have much in common with the group anymore.

Finally, be confident in yourself. Smile and project the image that you are a fun and strong person, and you will naturally attract fun people. Don't ask too many questions, don't talk about yourself too much, and try to encourage people to go places with you. It'll be hard at first, but soon you'll be flying!

If you haven't gone to university yet, there's a good chance you will meet more people you relate to there. There's lots of societies and study groups you can join, plus a lot more social activities.

Good luck, and I hope this helps a bit!

Answer 3

Try different clubs, meet new people. You can find lots of people your age. Try and let your innerchild out every now and then and you will find you can enjoy yourself with your current friends. I have a friend in her late 20s and she comes out to a pub once a week and lets her hair down. Dont think about drugs or anything.

Answer 4

What do you enjoy doing?
The easiest way to make friends is if you have something in common with them to start with ie -
you like working out - join a new gym
you love and own dogs - agility club/obedience classes

then just smile and say hello.

Answer 5

Well, what do you like to do? What interests do you have? Try to get out to locations associated with these things. Maybe try some new things that you've thought of trying. Just put yourself out there and meet people. They're everywhere. Age isnt as important as common interest.

Answer 6

Sure ur thinking in thr right away but its notall the right bcs u can find a frnd of 18 also more matured than u.So dont underestimate
anyone.Frndship doesnt have any agebar or so.

Answer 7

Find activities that you like to do and find social groups that go with them. you'll meet some really cool folks with similar interests. For example, If you like to hike you can hook up with the local sierra club for weekly hikes and meet people from there. Who knows? maybe you'll even find a little romance!=)

Answer 8

you already know... it is rather unhappy! Ever evaluate going out and making your man or woman friends?? I recommend who places plenty attempt into transforming into someones buddy. i've got no information because of fact I definitely have never been in this subject and that i doubt I ever would be.

Answer 9

First your location , that matters to have local friends.
Second ,tell your interests.
Third , your profession - the time you can be available to friends.
Fourth , describe your social life.
with help of these parameters you can easily find friends in local area or online as per your wish.

Answer 10

Play Ring a Ring of roses.