Does marriage deny someone to fall in love again?!Putting social values apart, is this marriage thing scientifically switching off the love electrical current to flow smoothly? Has any body out there had a similar experience?Help.
2006-08-06 20:40:17 · 15 answers · asked by akady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course it happens, vows or not there is nothing to say that you can't fall out of love with someone, you know people change over the years and this can really change how you feel about them or how they feel about you. Sometimes when this happens someone comes along in your life that can just change everything. Hey, we are human and we can't help how our emotions go most of the time, it is how you act upon those emotions that is important.
I am in a similar position, except I am the one that the married person is in love with, she has been married a very long time and there is no love there anymore, yes she doesn't want to hurt anyone but what to do? Be unhappy for the rest of your life based on a decision you made many years ago? Or accept that to be happy you need to change things, not saying you shouldn't work at the marriage, but when all avenues have been used, you can't carry on living a shadow of a life, do that and you will crumble as a person and your life will just become very empty.
So ermm yes, you can fall in love after marriage, in a perfect world we would meet the person we love and stay with them forever, but alas the person you marry isn't always the person you were meant to be with,
2006-08-06 21:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by fletcheyc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I fall in love with my wife more each and everyday;. Why whats your problem?
Okay now I am sure your talking about someone outside your marriage. Guess you forgot your vows when you got married. You can like someone out side your marriage
Falling in love with someone else. Then I would say you don't believe in marriage because you let this happen. Can you imagine if you put as much effort in you marriage as you have into falling in love with another how great your marriage could be. Guess you haven't.
2006-08-06 20:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its better falling in love after marriage then before, falling in love and after that no chance to get marrage that will be more pain full . So dont go for love marrage arranged are having 99% success rate because with consent of whole family members sport is very important in life time commitments..
2006-08-06 21:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by nectar_pk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I loved my husband soo much onthe day i marreid him. I didn't think it was possible ot love anyone else as much. Then the love died and then i fell hopelessly, recklessly in love with someone else. I tried to push it away but the feelings wouldn't go and I found myslef resenting my husband for not being either of the men I loved (my husband as he used ot be or the new man I had fallen for).
I left my husband.
I'm no longer with the man i fell for either. But I do have a wonderful relationship with my current partner of 7 years.
2006-08-07 00:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After being married previously I found it hard to fall in love and trust again. But when you know you are in love you do get married again but it shouldn't be you are out looking for love, true love happens when you least expect it I think very few people have ever experience true love. but alot of people love each other and I think that is what this world has come too we settle for love and not true love to conform to society's "cliches" of being left on the shelf not having kids blah blah blah blah blah.. get the idea?
2006-08-06 21:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when you marry, you are meant to be in love with your spouse for the rest of your life. That's what you promise to do on your wedding day.
Many people are not capable of loving one person for the rest of their life. This is very normal. However, if you are one such person, then you should never marry.
Never make a promise that you can't keep. After all, what's the point in promising in the first place, if you can't stick to it?
2006-08-06 21:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never been in the situation, but marriage is a life time commitment so be sure before you get married, otherwise a lot of people will be hurt afterwards.
2006-08-06 20:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for four and a half years now and am more in love with my husband every day! If I didn't feel like this I wouldn't be with him! I'm looking forward to the next 30-odd years.
2006-08-06 21:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was with my ex for 13 yrs. and it was hard getting divorced, my choice but yes i am in love with someone now and its been 3 years since we have been together, just give it time, and remember think of the good times that you 2 had to keep a smile on you face , if you think of the bad times it will only make you have haterate on him and make it hard for you to move on
2006-08-07 00:50:58 · answer #9 · answered by wanda h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it does not take away that possibility. Life likes to mess people about, what can I say?
I would say try not to hurt anyone, but that's impossible - even if you do nothing, you'll be in pain yourself.
Good luck and I hope it turns out well.
2006-08-06 20:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by slipstreamer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋