I have a wonderfull Welsh boyfriend & I am from Bulgaria. We have been together for 3 months now, but he has to go back to the UK in autumn to work. It turns out I may not be able to see him September - April. Travelling between the 2 countries is difficult (visa problem + costs a lot) and it's 99.9% sure I will not be granted a visa, and he has to work all the time. If any of you have been in a similar situation, please tell me if you have managed to stay together with your partner and is there anything in particular that has helped you overcome the problem. I would very much appreciate your advice.
2006-08-06 20:25:46 · 17 answers · asked by angellore81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well i hope they do! im in the same situation, and i do believe that they work, regardless of all the things people say. If u really like him and u really work hard at keeping the relationship together and he's worth it, believe me it will work out no problem. my b/f is in the military, and i hardly get to see him if ever, but we've been together almost a year and half. but what really helps is that we talk EVERY night. and we also sleep on the phone every night, even though it sounds stupid, it really helps. going back and forth can get costy, but i dont know about calling rates, but if u do talk to him daily, it'll help a lot!
GOOD LUCK! and hope it works out 4 ya!
2006-08-06 20:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by custom_made_mami 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have been through all that for a long time, I was in the Philippines which is 8000 miles away from UK and 19 hours by plane, so for a year we lived through phone calls, e-mails and texting, but we need to be together so we got married, that's the only way that I will be given a visa, so now we're together. I believe in long distance relationship, as long as you love each other but don't get too much hope for but just believe that if you are really menat for each other everything will come go through!!!
2006-08-06 20:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by confused_fozz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Long distance only works if you work on communication in the meantime. Try and spend time either talking on the phone or internet to build up a relationship and get to know each other better. But be warned -- Welsh boys and their mammy's are rarely separated for long. u could just treat this as a wonderful holiday romance and keep the memories of him in your head for when you're old and grey....
2006-08-06 22:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe that long distance relationships can work, although, non of my long distance relationships have been quite the distance of Bulgaria to wales. I now live, and have 3 children to my long distance boyfriend. As long as you are both committed, have trust in each other and visit each other as often as you can it can work. Plenty of phone calls and letters are always appreciated too. I personally believe that the distance can sometimes bring you closer together, maybe not in person but closer in mind and spirit. And it's so exciting when you do get to see one another again.
Good Luck and give it a go, what have you got to lose?
2006-08-06 20:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to put you off, but from my own personal experience, long distance relationships, especially long term long distance relationships can go to one of the 2 extremes: either you grow so close together despite the distance that you become inseparable, or you grow accustomed to the distance (though still keep very much in touch in an emotional context) that when you get on each others' nerves after a couple of days of getting back together.
For me, sadly it was the latter.
2006-08-06 20:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by k² 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to maintain your relationship. However, it takes two to tango as they say. You will both have to make compromises in the short term. You may have to make do with letters and the internet for daily contact. Use Instant Messaging service for real time conversations over the net ( as i'm sure you probally do anyway ) It won't be easy because you both have needs to fulfill. Being apart will test the strength of your relationship. Good luck.
2006-08-06 20:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a couple of long distance relationships, onle one has worked, and is the relationship I am currently in (we now live together and are planning on getting married). Basically it is down to the persons involved, as to whether it works or not, not the distance or anything else......
2006-08-06 20:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by break 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes dear it works,am in a long distance rlship but the same country just diffrent states,all am once u two love and respect each other feelings it will work though is diffcult atimes but remember in normal rlship witout fistance is diffcult atimes,so distance rlship needs double patience,double understanding,almost everything in double,i wish you the best,if it worked for me,i guess it will work for too once there is geniune love,cheers
2006-08-06 21:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only well grounded relationships (many years together) can survive this.
On the other hand, if you both play it cool, no promises and see where you are next year, perhaps you can start your romance all over again. Good luck
2006-08-06 20:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very difficult to maintain intimacy under these circumstances.
But not impossible.
I'd suggest lots of text messages, e mails and IM contact, that way you can at least talk to him every day.
2006-08-06 20:32:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋