okay it's time for me to bring it up......?

Question

do you know that this n***a had the nerve to try to tell me why he doesn't like black girls? why would he tell me why he doesn't like black girls and i'm a black girl. and do you believe he got mad at me when i tried to defend my race(i say my race bcuz it seems like we, black women, are the only ones who are seperated now)? it seems like black men just don't realize that black men are over half the reason that black men don't like black women. why are we mad or bitter? do you think we were born that way? HELL NO! our black daddies weren't there for us and then our black boyfriends did us wrong and then black men who don't even know us or what we've been through turned around and tried to tell us what was wrong with us. and all people want to say is" you should just be happy BLAHBLAHBLAH you're making racism..." I DON'T WANNA HERE THAT **** THIS N***A JUST PISSED ME OFF! racism against blacks exists, but the worst part is that it is between us more than it is at us the klan is obsolete

black men and women cannot seem to support each other. and right now i'm crying because that hurts to know that the people who are supposed to be in the same boat and situation as you are the main ones trying to tear you down. we are like crabs in a bucket, we can't let each other succeed, and i know there are some who try i know a couple of them and i thank God for them, but for the majority who can't get out of their situation and don't want you to get out of yours, you are going to burn in hell, and i might be right there burnin with you, but i'll know why you are there Tj.

mo money just said something i have to think about do they do that to girls of other races too, say what they don't like about their race?

i want to thank you all for letting me vent except for those of you who were mean. i'm really a very nice person stuff like that just makes me so mad. and i know this guy and he has said something like that to me b4. it is one of those toxic relationships i'm cleansing my self of, thanx again;)

dzeyoyo= i believe it

Answer 1

You know, since going to a mostly black high school, I did happen to notice that. And it's sad to me. It seems like (and I know this is stereotyping but it's something that I've seen for awhile) most of the blacks were a.) living in the ghetto; b.) drug dealers, c.) drug addicts; d.) didn't care about a decent education; e.) were incredibly violent f.) extremely dirt poor; and g.) all of the above. This was girls and guys alike. But it was most predominate among the boys. I'm afraid that because I'm white I'm going to come across as racist, but trust me, I'm not. Not all of the blacks I was going to school with were that way. There were a few that were willing to make something of themselves. But the majority didn't. And it was incredibly sad, because a lot of them were AMAZINGLY brilliant, but they were misusing their potential. It was a terrible disheartening thing to see.

I don't think it's an issue of racism, either. It's a motivation issue. And I can't understand why. I applaud all blacks who want to make something of themselves, because, and maybe it's just this town, but it seems that it's a very rare occurance. I don't know why that guy said that to you. But it seems like the majority of black men are like that. Is it some resiliency issue? (In this case resilient meaning that someone won't let something keep them down.) Is it that the circumstances of living are keeping hope down? Or is it something else? Your question just brings up millions more questions, all beeing next to impossible to answer.

It seems like the males have problems. But I do admit that I just don't like men in general. All that I have seen has made me have no hope. I don't think it's just black men that aren't there for their kids. I think it's becoming a major male problem. I can't say anything about the white boyfriends, because I've never had one, but I have a father who isn't there for me. But I do understand where you're coming from, because I have seen what you've seen, and I know that I might not ever be able to understand completely, because I'm different from you race-wise. But I've seen it, and like you, I can't understand why. It is incredibly sad to me how so few of your race seem to help each other. I suppose it's just the younger generations? Are lives of crime and all easier than having compassion? (Yes, I'm stereotyping badly, but it seems to me that most blacks have let the stereotypes seep into them and become them. I know it's not everyone that does that, but it does seem to happen.) And it's a horrible injustice. But I have no idea why it is, and I'm sorry. Sorry that you would ever have to have a father who doesn't care, because believe me, I know what that's like. Sorry that you can't find some guy who GETS it. I just don't understand why people act the way they do sometimes. Depressing isn't it?

Remember this though. Never let your circumstances get you down, because there is ALWAYS a way up. All that matters is how hard you struggle to move up. That's the sign of a real fighter, a real "survivor", because I know that you can find the strength within yourself.

Answer 2

This is hard, your angry and I don't think your wrong to feel that way at all. You will meet someone who deserves your affection but that may sound pretty hollow now. Please try to let that anger go, again it's so very hard but it's you that has to love you right now. There is nothing wrong with you or any Ebony Woman and you'll meet the right person who won't make such a foolish and callus remark. I'm not throwing this out of my hat, I've been burned too by callus remarks from someone that should have stood by me. I won't give myself to anger, it spoils what comes next; the after. I would like you to have an after as well, I don't want any one to hurt like this; I know this feeling. Take your moment, then rise; you may be a Champion; you sure have the fire; and we never know what's around the next corner if we don't look. I'd be interested to know how you do, I am hopeful for you; there is something here beyond this moment; yes; I feel that; your strong.

Answer 3

i'd actual say it relies upon on the form of reception it fairly is. Like above human beings have mentioned, if it fairly is a plated meal at a take a seat eating place then no, you do no longer convey cookies, if it fairly is a kinfolk contributed buffet form nutrition setup someplace casual, then you certainly are very considerate to make that many cookies! in simple terms be sure there is sufficient for each guy or woman! (think of, 2 cookies in keeping with customer, some will consume none, some will pig out on 4, distinctly in the event that they're tasty!)

Answer 4

Firstly, there are so many idiots who exist out there. Try not to take too much notice of stupid, unfounded insults like that. Even though he said it to you, it probably wasn't directed at you personally. That's not to say, though, that insults like that don't hurt, because they do. I'd say the problem isn't so much racism, but stems from poverty, isolation, bad prospects, unemployment, substance abuse etc. All I can say is - ignore the idiots and do what you have to. If you succumb to remarks like that, the only person who suffers is YOU. The person making the remark will probably never see you again. Their life goes on because they don't care. Unfortunately, you can't change people's mindsets, no matter how bad their opinions may be. I'm sorry you had to go through that, and I only hope you can continue being the best person you can be - not what some idiot tells you you are.

Answer 5

that was too long, so i can see that you're really angry

i agree with you, most racism occurs within the group instead of other races framing it
blacks and natives have the highest homicide rate by someone of their own race
i guess it's the environment they grew up with, just trusting nobody except themselves, not even their own race
sometimes i feel like some black people degrade themselves as they sometimes would call themselves n*egro (no offense to you)
it's a collective belief and it should be changed
so these people would need to grow up in a non-racial society
hopefully you slapped some sense into that guy...
and good luck to you

Answer 6

If you'd think of yourself as a human being first none of this would matter. Who cares if some black guy doesn't like black girls? Why are you limiting yourself like that anyway? There's all kinds of men looking for a good woman and most of them aren't black.

Answer 7

you are right and it sucks.
black men can get white women because white women see them as exotic and sexy. for a black man a white women is a status symbol because they have bought into the ideas of mainstream america and have internalized racism.
there are good black men out there who value black women and treat them the way they deserve to be treated. the problem is there are so many wonderful black women there arent enough good men to go around.

Answer 8

Date white men. seriously. My uncle is white/MIT educated/charming/cultured and he LOVES black women. To be perfectly honest, I have the same anxiety about white men [I'm white] and not being asian. It sucks. But try not to put all your eggs in one basket. Open up to dating other races. It's really trendy and you'll look like you walked out of a gap commercial, lol.
I started dating asian guys a few years ago, and I really like them. They're all shorter than me, hahaha, but it's been a good experience.
I completely understand your pain though!

Answer 9

My daddy was there for me. Not everyone has the same problems. This is not the forum for your rant. Sorry but it's true. email me if you wanna talk sometime. You have every right to be pissed off!!!! F-Him!!!

Answer 10

Whether we like them or not everyone is entitled to their own opinions. But if some white guy tried telling me why he didn't like white girls I'd tell him I didn't give a f*ck and to get out of my face. I wouldn't waste my time trying to defend myself to someone who doesn't mean sh!t to me.