Should I tell her this or just go on not having any fun.
Because I dont *** I hardly wanna have sex
2006-08-06 19:19:05 · 13 answers · asked by hobber2006 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yeah Im faking
2006-08-07 12:31:01 · update #1
You know there are a lot of reasons women don't have orgasms. Lack of being relaxed, trust issues, etc. You have to ask yourself how you feel about your relationship. Have you been able to have orgasms before this? Do you have an orgasm if you are by yourself? If it is something she is not doing to get you off politely tell her what you like. Communication is always a good choice. If your relationship is not strong enough to take talking this over is it a relationship worth being in?
Best of luck to you.
2006-08-06 19:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many reason why a person might not have an orgasm..
Stress is a big one. Drugs, some drugs like Meth or cocaine might cause this problem, not that I am accusing you of using. Psychological issues affect some people sexually. Past sexual abuse as a child or adult. A person not being quite comfortable with their sexuality can also affect a person comfort levels during sexual intercourse. Female reproductive problems can also affect. Check with your physician about this issue or try seeking counseling help. Also if you are not 100% sure (some doubt) of your partner, this would cause you to not orgasm during sex. Try showing her where you like to be touch, communicate with her, she might not be experienced and is doing it wrong.
2006-08-07 15:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by cj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow 2 years, for a lesbian? I don't mean to be insensitive but what the hell?
It could be medication.
Go to the toy store and get a magic wand- this is the exact name. Its like a defibrillator, if that doesn't rattle the teeth out of your head I don't know what will. I also would try things you have never tried before, role playing, anal, just get freaky.
If its trust, well then that's a different story, that would be couples counseling. If you love her, you need to experience this intimacy and be honest... If you have had sexual abuse issues.. re-ask the questions.. But anyways we need more details...
2006-08-07 14:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by mylife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's an issue. Not every woman can orgasm though. I know mine have been few and far between.
All I can suggest is maybe get kinkier in the bedroom. If you are already kinky then I have no idea.
If you worry about it a lot also that can put a downer on things too.
2006-08-07 02:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. This is important and you also need to look at your whole relationship and see if it is worth salvaging. Sex isn't everything, but is important and there has to be a way around it for the 2 of you. If not then going your separate ways is the only logical way forward.
2006-08-07 02:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her. It is not her fault but you must be honest.
Low or lack of sexual drive can be due to many different things.
- stress
- depression
- fear
- hormonal
- side effect of current prescriptions
Only you can know if it is psychological and choose to do something about it.
If it is clinical a Dr can diagnose it for you through some simple blood tests
Don't panic, this is not uncommon
2006-08-07 02:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by chocolate sundae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her or your relationship will suffer in the long run. It may be hard to tell her, but it will probably bring you closer. If you do tell her she will probably (after a few awkward minutes) be glad you told her and then start asking you questions about what you like. Communication is essential in any relationship about all things, even sex.
2006-08-07 02:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by sunnydayzd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her???? You mean she doesn't already know??! 2 years is a long time to wait. If you have been faking it, she will be pissed, because that is lying. If she is not concerned about your satisfaction, she is just a selfish/ lousy lover and you should have moved on some time ago.
2006-08-07 04:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you faking? Then you got some splainin to do and she will not be happy that you've been dishonest.
If not, find something new to do or challenge her in some way to figure out what works. Make it a little game...you've been together plenty long for that.
2006-08-07 02:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by Isabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is KEY girl! You owe it to yourself / her to be "honest", you can still be tactfull on your approach, you don't have to devastate her. Just choose your verbage before you approach her on the topic. Follow your heart / gut! It must bother you enough to type / talk about it on-line, right?! Just "buck-up" and talk to her! Best of Luck! Cheers!
2006-08-07 02:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by Drew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋