I am butch and she is femme.
I am taking my girl on a vacation to Thailand. I like to party and she is more of a stay at home and watch a movie type. We are going to Pattaya which is kinda like party central in Thailand. What can I do to make sure we dont argue or have a bad time. I really like her and she really likes me.
2006-08-06 19:18:51 · 6 answers · asked by angelajock 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I guess i should also add that she really is trying for me. She knows she is a homebody but she went out and bought some new clothes because she knows I am going to want to go out. I am willing to stay in the hotel and watch a movie, but not every night!! She really is a sweetheart. But I work in Iraq and I work 7 days a week 84 hours a week and when I go on this vacation I just want to act crazy! Am I being selfish??
2006-08-06 19:47:58 · update #1
Aagh this is the same problem my girl and I have. Well one thing to do is to definately partake in a bit of each other's activities. I think even if she only goes out with you one or two nights that at least she has made an effort.
Also try and stay in and watch a movie with her too. I know that it's hard to do all of the time but it's compramising.
I know that I'm like your girl. I like to stay at home - it's just who I am. My partner likes to go out. I have started going out a bit with her now.
I don't really like going out but I know that she makes the effort to stay home with me so I make the effort to go out with her. Alternatively take it as time out on your own and enjoy it!
2006-08-06 19:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
midnightdealer gave you a perfect answer. Compromise is the key to making any relationship work. Is there anything she likes to do when you go out, like see bands or anything? That could be fun. I used to party and now I am a 'stay at home and watch a movie girl' but if I were on vacation, especially in Thailand, I would want to go out and experience the nightlife there. But if she doesn't want to go out tell her you are willing to compromise if she is. Maybe you should discuss it before you even go. How long have you been together? If it's been a long time and/or if there is a lot of trust there maybe some nights you can go out and she can stay in and watch a movie by herself...I know that would be ok with me. Good luck!
2006-08-06 19:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by sunnydayzd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhhhmmm.... you're not being selfish but don't over do that craziness that you're planning...
You're planning to bring along your girlfriend, that means the vacation is for both of you.... So, plan somethings that she likes and plan something that you like... tell her andd im sure that she'll agree since you have told us that she's understanding and she tries to like the things that you like... âº
I;m sure it will work out! and watch out for tsunamis and return safely.... compromise...âº
By the way, Thailand is a great place! Enjoy! Send us pictures!
2006-08-06 20:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by c3ss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise.
2006-08-06 19:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by midnightdealer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you planned this vacation around yourself. why not let her pick things to do that appeal to her? that way you both get to have fun and part of a relationship is compromise. even if you don't enjoy yourself doing things her way, keep it to yourself. she will be appreciative. good luck and return safely.
2006-08-06 19:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by luvbuggies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all, but plan some low key alone time things too. like leisurely lunch/strole. be romantic and let her know you love her so she doesn't feel like you're disappointed in her..........just use common sense............by the way be careful if you're out by yourself late at night, common sense girl lolololol end of lecture! have a wonderful time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-06 21:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋