my parents r getting divorced and i need advice
2006-08-06 19:17:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, you have to remember always that they both love you.
It is hard to adjust to your parents not being together anymore, but think about this....they were unhappy together, so by being apart they will both be happier. and they both still love you and they always will.
2006-08-06 19:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by Wildflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce Is always a bad word. But sometimes it is very much necessary, particularly if both the partners just cant bear each other. Before considering divorce, you should first of all think about the children. If the children are grown up and doesn't need the care of both parents, its o.k.. If the children are small, then its better to adjust for a few more years, before u think of divorce. Also, before divorce u should think what next ? It may not be a bed of roses.It might well be from frying pan to fire. why repent later ?
2006-08-06 20:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by 50+Brat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is life changing and the problems that existed in the marriage don't go away quickly. I was very young when my mom and dad divorced 18 years ago and it has affected me through life but I choose to see the positives that have emerged from their break up rather than the hard times. My parents each remarried and I have a 16 year old sister, and two new brothers 14 and 10 who I love so much. I take love and commitment very seriously and will only marry when I find a man who strives for commitment and is in the marriage for the long haul. I know life is hard right now, and I pray you will find consolation that no matter what happens your mom and dad still love you.
2006-08-06 19:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by M N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. It's hard. But it's not as hard as watching two people you love try to destroy each other or be miserable in the only life they have been given to live. You just have to tell yourself that if they've made the decision to divorce, it's probably because they have decided it's the most healthy thing for everyone involved, including you. Try to trust them. Reassure them that you understand and love them. And when you feel you need some extra reassurance and love, if you aren't getting it, speak right up and say so. I'm sure any neglect will not be intentional and they will both jump at the chance to be startled into realizing they need to show you some attention. They will get through this difficult time and their lives and move on, and so will you.
2006-08-06 20:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but other than help with expenses by getting a paper route, mowing your neighbors lawns, cleaning their cars or something like that, there is not much a 13 year old can do. Just stay out of the way, be conscientious when asking for something and remember that the divorce is not yours or your sisters' fault. It is the fault of adults behaving badly. Seek help with your school counselor and don't let the bad choices of adults knock you down. If you believe in any religious institution, talk to the leader figure in your community to help you go through it. Seek help, you are a child and not as strong as you may think. Even adults have difficulty coping this this sort of problems.
2016-03-27 01:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is the hardest thing to go through. Advice is often given, but each situation is different. What I have gone through may not be what you are going through. I found it hard not to dislike each of my parents, because of what they are doing to the family. I eventually had a change of heart with them both. Sometimes, staying together for the children's sake hurts the child more than divorcing would.
2006-08-06 19:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have any problems when my parents divorced. I was 12 when it happened. I still got to see my mom on a normal basis and I lived with my dad. I got a bunch of stuff that year because they felt guilty, but I really didn't think much about it otherwise.
I could tell they were both happier and that made me happier. I didn't want them to stay together just for me when they were miserable.
I guess it just depends on how selfish and how much of a drama queen you are. All in all it is not your decision, it's their marriage. Just remember they can't divorce you. They are stuck with you forever.
2006-08-06 19:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by charice266 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. I have two girls and it was not easy.
There are a couple of books you might want to read. Children of divorce pretty much wrote them and there is a lot of good stuff there.
If you want the list, contact me at tedbeecher@pacbell.net
I need to find the list and will send the whole thing to you. There are also books for your parents.
Good luck and love both of them....Its not you.
2006-08-07 05:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by timbother@pacbell.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look your parents are divorcing each other not you , I mean my parents divorced when my brother was 3 and I was 4 months old and well it was better that they were apart, trust me in the long run it will be better for them , I know that it will hurt but remember this will make your parents better people to each other, ,,,
2006-08-06 19:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by E.M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea it is well i was adopted when i was 3 months old and then when i was 7 my dad the guy that adopted me and my mom got a divorce and then now last year when i was 9 my dad died now i just live with my mom
2006-08-06 19:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by ~Baby~G~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋