Last month I had sex wit my ex but just about 1 week ago I had sex wit my boyfriend I know im pregnant but im confused on who baby it is but my ex died a couple of weeks ago an now im wit my boyfriend but I told my boyfriend Im pregnant an it's his but only because the other is dead please help me on this one should I tell him about it or should I just think wat he dont know wont hurt him!
2006-08-06 19:00:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Your not the only person in the world to be in this situation. you handle things badly but your not a whore, I think your going to have to "man up" and tell your b/f the sooner the better so he can make a choice about whether he wants to "man up"... but your going to need to do a dna test ... you don't know you ex's family history and he could have some kind or genetic disorder in the family, The ultra sound can give you a estimate of when you got pregnant but not exact.... I hope you figure out what to do...
2006-08-06 19:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by manda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop being selfish for a moment! Think about the unborn child for a second. If you are talking about a month ago, the baby is definitely your late ex's! Start thinking of how are you gonna raise the baby. It's wrong to lie because finding out the truth much later will be painful if you ended up marrying your current living boyfriend. When the baby grows up it will be difficult for himher and I would not think your bf can accept your lies and masquerade. Stop for once and think for a moment as your actions will be exposed sooner or later. Come out clean and seek help!
2006-08-07 02:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by shida2606 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not a whore, your human. Sorry to hear about your ex. I think that you should mention it to your boyfriend, the timing is up to you, but at least before the baby is born. Some people think that the sooner the better but its not always like that in some situations. The only reason i think that you should mention it to your boyfriend is so a DNA test can be done.Your baby needs to know who his/her father is for many of reason, medical reasons especially. Hope everything works for you.
2006-08-07 02:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by stressed&depressed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi gal you are not a whore, you are just confused and feeling lost my advise to you right now is to take a medical exam to assure you that you and baby are fine. Then sit and think about what you really want for the baby. so you told your boyfriend! whether the baby is his or not is secondary. do you want him to be part of the babies life? Is it material support you want or emotional as well? Think before you make any conclusive decision it has many implications for a life time for both you and the baby. All the best my dear be strong
2006-08-07 02:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although truth is the best but is not the solution in your situation.the baby might be your boyfriend's.So I think it is better you do not say anything now.After the baby is born have a DNA check then if it was your ex's,you should decide on what is the best .
By the way,are you depended on your boyfriend financially?How about emotionally?If yes,It is better for you and your child to never tell him the truth.
2006-08-07 02:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe it to everyone in the situation to find out the truth. The truth always comes out no matter what and its better to tell it now before your boyfriend becomes too attached and later on finds out that the child might not be his. He also needs to know that you cheated on him. Deal with the consequences now while you are still young and can move on instead of becoming too embedded in the situation and being hurt a lot worse later.
2006-08-07 02:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Ashali2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, everyone makes mistakes.
But If you love your boyfriend and want to make a life with him, you need to be honest.
Now, first, were you guys broken up when you slept with your ex or you cheated?
First, if you do not own up to your mistake with him, you are going to cause a whole lot of lies later on, and it will be harder the longer you hold on to this secret. There are certain things you can tell white lies, about , but this is huge.
If you are not honest with him and your unborn child on who the father is.. its going to eat u alive.
Do you want to build a relationship and a family on lies? And you need to be certain of the paternity for you and the baby's sake?
You cannot lie to him if it is not his biological child? He could be really hurt later on and if you really love him...be honest.
Be honest with him and yourself.
And no, you are not a whore. Mistakes are made in life and that is how we learn.
Sometimes when you are with someone who you loved in the past and have shared things with memories and etc; come about. Its a moment of weakness.. we are only human.
2006-08-07 02:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by satckaren72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its up to you whether you can live with consequences if you do not tell.
If you tell you can have a good sleep and no memories sneaking up on you.
If you don't and your child turned out looking/behaving completely different from you and your b/f, that is the starting of rumors. Then its up to you to spend the rest of your life making up stories to defend the hidden truth.
2006-08-07 02:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by Farani P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never mention to him that the child is not his.....your life could turn out to be hell. But just get a medical test to know it for urself, that will indicate to u on which day it occured, so u can have an idea, on which day u got pregnent, means with ur ex or bf. this could be for ur knowledge.
2006-08-07 02:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by ckm1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a freaking DNA test after the baby is born. It could be your boyfriend's baby or the ex's.
2006-08-07 02:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋