OK...this will sound odd I am sure.
My husband and I have been married 5 years....very happy.
He is not blessed "size -wise"..which is fine with me.I love just being close and intimate with him.
After years of prodding and asking - he knows my boyfriend before him was VERY well-endowed.
Its now our "routine", our foreplay, talking about my old boyfriends size.
I dont mind it every now and then....BUT...its like he cant get excited unless I am talking about the black guy I was with and the guys "size".
He is pushing for me to have an affair with my ex....he says he wants me to have that "kind of sex" again.
Its like....i want him to drop it...but he wont stop begging me to cheat!
I'm to the point of seeing my ex, just to make him happy - and yes, i'll admit I miss how he was with me in bed.
I would never be thinking about him if my husband did not talk about it EVERY time we make love.
Any ideas why he is pushing for this to happen?
Has anyone done this "for the hubby"?
2006-08-06 18:30:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do NOT DO IT! I think your husband needs counseling
2006-08-06 18:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by blonde mom70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't do it. I would be afraid it would be the only thing he would think about, and start judging YOUR sex life by that one experience. He may become jealous even.
If he's having a problem with your pleasure, just go to an adult shop and choose some stuff together and let him be in charge, this way, it's something new and less threatening for the man.And hopefully pleasing for both of you........
If this doesn't help, you might need some counseling to get to the rout of the matter.
2006-08-06 18:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Torri * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, that is a dilemma. If it were me, I would not do it, after all, you don't REALLY want to, and if you do something you don't want to do in the first place, you probably end up regretting it later. Secondly, you really need to sit down with your husband and lay it out for him, let him know how you feel about it, telling him that you love him, but that it's really uncomfortable for you, you don't feel right about cheating on him, and telling him that if he ever cheated on you, it would really hurt you, so why expect you to do that to him? It also sounds like he may have a self-esteem problem, i know because my husband is the same way about his size, and let him know that you love him for who he is not for his size, let him know that sex is about you and him. NOT about you, him, and your ex. If nothing else really works, try counseling, which would definitely be hard but better than making a mistake that could cost you your marriage altogether.
2006-08-06 19:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by Gone2PickApples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a divorce now. The can of worms has been opened so to speak. Your husband is starting to show signs of being bi and a pervert. If you don't mind, then stay but don't be surprised if he cheats on you...with a black man.
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