what u think about teens having baby's?

Question

i think under 18 is way to young...do they know how hard it is and how much money it costs to raise a baby..?

what do u think was hard about being a mom?

mom of 2 and proud

Answer 1

I was 17 when I got pregnant with my son 18 when I had him I have been with the same guy sense I was 15 I am now 19 and married to him and have another baby on the way. There are women in their 30's who can't afford to have kids , and living on your own is just as expensive. theres always gonna be struggles regardless but my kids are well taken care of and I know plenty of young mothers who do a damn good job of rasing their kids. I think everyone that is talking about us living off welfare , there are grown us women living off welfare , so to everyone that said that were sitting on our asses living off welfare , how the hell do u know what we do and don't do? cuz I can tell you right now I am not on welfare and its for people who need it my husband works 16 hour shifts so that we can get buy , and who are you to knock anyone that is on welfare??? what about these 28-36yr old ladies that go in there but its okay right because they are more mature? You don't know us and never will because you already decided to past judgement because of our age and that just shows how mature you are.

Answer 2

I got pregnant at seventeen and had my son, Gabriel, at eighteen. I admit I was very young. To most people I am not ready or capable of taking care of another living person. Honestly, I do believe it depends. I wanted a baby more than anything in the world. I was already done with high school and going to college. I had a job where I saved every single penny I earned. I never missed a doctors appointment and took vitamins everyday. I stayed as healthy and happy as possible. I spent my pregnancy preparing for the baby. I bought everything needed and set up everything perfectly by the time he arrived. When he was born, the room was filled with my loved ones who were there to support me. I have never been happier. My son is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me and way more amazing than I expected. I do not miss my previous lifestyle. The things I used to enjoy have changed. I love spending my moments bonding with my son. It is hard, but life IS hard. I have absolutely no complaints. I would never take it back. We are doing great and I am still going to college. I have excellent grades and I plan on being a teacher. I am able to support my son and would not change my life in any way.

Answer 3

It's all according to the teen's maturity level. Yes, it's hard but having a baby later doesn't make it any easier because at that point the woman has to worry about maternity leave from work. At least school principals will do everything possible to help the girl finish school so really the biggest challenge for a teen is money. I don't approve of teen pregnancies but I must say some of the best mothers I've seen were those who were teen moms--much better than many I've seen who waited til their twenties.

Answer 4

i was a teen mom. i was preg. at 15 had her at 16 i am 19 now i am a great mom i was mature then and im even more mature now. it does depend on how mature the teen is. think of how it was back in the olded days. there was alot of teen moms. and yes i do know how hard it is and how it costs but fortuantly for me i have a great husband and a wonderful daddy thats stands beside me and hasnt taken off. we have been together for the past 6 years. and if you are wondering if ia m happy.... yes i am i am very happy we have a house that we are buying a very nice truck and we have our beautiful baby girl who will be 4 in april. we are blessed. so try not to judge someone who gets pregnant young. you know how many people have called me names like w*hore, s*lut and stuff like that and just look at them and say now how can i be that if i have been with only one man for the last 6 years? well i have to go to bed have to get up early in the morning and go to work. good luck to you.

Answer 5

Personally I think it should be based on a persons maturity level. I have seen people in their 20s that shouldnt have kids. I had my first baby when I turned 17. I graduated high school, worked, and raised a child with no help but from family. If it hadnt been for me getting pregnant, my life would have been over by now. My son saved me from a lot of stuff. I was smoking, drinking, getting high, staying out all night, etc. When i found out I was pregnant I gave everything up and had a very healthy baby boy. So I guess its on a persons maturity level. Look at all the adults that kill their kids, rape their kids, molest them, etc...

Answer 6

I think that parenting is the most important job in this world!
What we teach our children will effect the world in hundreds of ways. Teenagers need the time to deal with issues that effect them as TEENS. They should not become parents until they can support their child. It takes a lot of money to raise a child.
Young girls want babies mostly because they want something to love and that will love them. Beyond that, they do not take it seriously!!! They do not THINK! They can't be good parents, because they are still children themselves. Children should not have children! They should stay in school, go to college, learn about the world, Fall in love and get married, and then have children that they can care for and give a future to.
This is the way I see the problem that you posed. Thanks for the chance to air my view.

Answer 7

i imagine some human beings see a bath for a teen mom as advocating youngster being pregnant. i'm able to guarantee you if I had gotten pregnant as a teen there is 0 danger i could have had a bath, no longer that it really is precise, yet my moms and dads are very religious and one hundred% adverse to sex till now marriage and a teen being pregnant could were seen as a tragedy and in no way something to be celebrated. despite the indisputable fact that i imagine all youngster moms should be thrown a bath by ability of someone because there's a lot that a toddler needs and it may maximum probably be no longer attainable for a teen mom to be able to pay for all of it herself. youngster moms want as a lot help and help as they could get.

Answer 8

its kind of weird. i am 19 an kind of want a baby, but there's no way i will until i'm at least like 25 or 30 because i want to finish college and travel and be young and have fun !

i think being a teenager or even in your younger 20's is the best time of your life! just when you're out of your own parent's control, why suddenly have to be responsible for your own kid??

Answer 9

i think that if these young girls knew what being a "grownup" really involved, they wouldn't be in such a hurry to grow up. stay young, enjoy your youth, don't rush the passing of time...
it isn't all glamorous like you've told yourself it is.
it is really hard work; with little if any reward ~no rest for the wicked~i thought i was grown up @ 15 years old; i wish i'd known then what i know now...i'd surely savor every minute of time i had; rather than rushing headlong into old age.
i have no regrets but that it all went by too fast at my own hand....and BABIES?
well i had them too.*~welcome to disfunction junction.~* all alone~i did it all.
i can look in the mirror and honestly say that i did try my best.
maybe one day my best will prove to be enough.

Answer 10

being a mum shouldnt be the first thing any female does in their life... it shouldnt be their first achievement...
i was 22 and had eveything... yet ot was so hard still... financially AND mentally...
but i loved it, i love my boys and the family we have... i believe i am lucky

these young girls i dont believe have been given the right guidance and often have low self esteems...

i wish i could talk with all the young girls in the world and let them know that they can be anything they want to be and to encourage them with their dreams and how to achieve them... it doesnt matter what they become as long as they have the ambition in life...

i believe you should only have a child if you can give them at least what you had as a child if not more...

Answer 11

My mom had me when she was 17 and I grew up okay.

So, it's going to be hard, but possible with helps from others like the father of the baby, friends and family.