bought my buddy a bottle of wine for a going away and i gave him a free cd player , he seldomly calls me and i usually have to call him i allways go to his house and he hardly comes to mine he shows little appreciation for me and i show so much to him i even wanted to throw him a going away party
i no longer go to his house any more, i am the only friend from highschool that comes everyday and visits him
he told his brother that i dont visit any more and that it is his brothers fault that i havent called or gone two his house
he hasent called me in 2 weeks scince i have stopped comeing to his house
2006-08-06 18:07:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
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2006-08-06 18:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Frank G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"A liberal "dose" of continual love is owed to others without getting it's immediate return. You must know showing your love and/or concern for others is a valuable self-medication. Do not stop it. Your old friend may not respond well to this philosophy. In any case, it will not be your fault if he no longer responds to you. Remember, almost everyone you encounter, besides your old buddy, will respond in a very positive manner once they understand what your motivation towards their friendship is.
Your best bet for the future is to "do no evil."
2006-08-13 06:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Sounds like your friend is selfish and centered on himself. The thought of blaming others and not taking responsibility for reciprocating or making an effort is just an indication that he expects you to. Think about this: If you didn't call him for weeks would you still have a friendship.
2006-08-06 19:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lori L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Lori, above me. He does sound self centered. I think that you should focus that kindness, time and energy on yourself. Be a good friend to yourself. That doesn't mean that you have to be mean to him, not in the least bit, but be nice to yourself. Don't settle for less or allow anyone to treat you less than you are worth. He might need time and he might be selfish, either way, give yourself some space and take care of you. People only treat you how you allow them to treat you. I commend you for not calling him for that time. You go Girl! Let him come to you and if he doesn't than your intuition will tell you what to do. I wouldn't say that he doesn't care, but he just might care in a different way. Be blessed!
2006-08-06 21:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by caramel_angelkiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're prolonging the inevitable...he isn't going to reciprocate your good deeds. He seems to have moved on from the friendship. It doesn't mean you have done anything wrong, he may have just changed as a person. Try keeping your distance for awhile. If he wants to talk, he knows where to find you. It will be a much better feeling if you hang out with him because he stopped by on his own. Good luck!
2006-08-06 18:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by diyta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think perhaps that he does care however i think he has a problem with showing it. he is unsure on how to express his own feelings and feels ashamed of it. with everyday life we tend to get into a habit of work sleep and inbetween try to have a lil fun or just be alone to unwind from a days or a weeks stress. talk to your friend and tell him how you feel this will show that you still care but be firm that its a two way street. you shouldnt give everything and get nothing. if he fumes out then you will know your true answer. and whether or not he is a true friend.
2006-08-06 18:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by caym_debarclay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not worth your effort. Maybe he has problems he is preoccupied with. Or maybe he's just that type of person. In which case, either continue your one-sided friendship, understanding that it may never be reciprocated, or say bye bye and use your kindness and energy on someone more appreciative. Hope this helps.
2006-08-06 18:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We as members of this strange and human species; don't always act and/or react inthe same fashion as one another. That's the beauty of it, we are all individuals. Believe me your buddy cares, probably more than you know, he just has a little more trouble expressing himself than you do. How do I presume to know this?...... My friends often complain that I don't call often enough etc. But I know that I love them just as much as they love me!
2006-08-06 18:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by BONNIE B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Two thoughts come to my mind.
1. You are a good hearted and a person who cares about others.
2. He is an idiot he has a valuable friend and has blown it. You are better off being rid of this idiot.
2006-08-11 13:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by Calvin of China, PhD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you capitalize your writing? e.e. cummings is a fraud you know. Don't be such a weeny. Learn to verbalize correctly then maybe everybody would stop ignoring you.
2006-08-13 07:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don tworry about it !!
just move on and do some thing more productive with your life!!
like errr hummm
well you get the point!
2006-08-11 09:22:35 · answer #11 · answered by gabe l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋