the love i had never gotten from my family members today i just found it from one of my cousin's family. it's like my whole world is with them. u can never stay far away from them....u feel like crying the sec u see or hear or even talk about them. u would feel like going back to them and staying with them forever. but what about ur real family....what if they don't let u go? what'll u do then? how would u go to the family that really loves u? how will u even live without them? how can u get to them? is there ever going to be an answer to that????
2006-08-06 18:01:07 · 14 answers · asked by MaLoVe4LiFe!!!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what if my cousins live on the other side of the world?
2006-08-06 18:09:43 · update #1
Live with both then you lose neither.
2006-08-06 18:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that you are very young. And that's ok. Having your needs met by your cousin's family is a wonderful thing, a blessing in your life. Have you told your own family how you feel? Sometimes people get so caught up in the trivial things in life, and forget to say I love you, or even show love. It's usually those we love the most, that we hurt the most. We treat our friends better than we treat our families. Enjoy the closeness you share with this family. Don't give up on yours, time and maturity changes things. Keep doing things for them and loving them, hopefully through your example they will see the error of their ways and start treating you with love and respect. One thing you did not say was whether anyone one in your family has hurt you physically or abused you in any way. If they have, then you need to tell someone and have that someone get you out of that situation. I wish the best for you. Good luck.
2006-08-07 01:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by sleepless in the ATL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Families are such a funny thing -- from the day we're born we're stuck with these strange people who we didn't choose, and if they were just strangers on the street, we might not even like them very much.
We all go through a stage where we can't stand our families, but we're stuck with them. It's great that you've found a good environment with your cousin's family, but it's unrealistic to think that they can take the place of your real family. It's something that many of us have had to struggle with. One day, when you're old enough, you can venture out on your own and decide who you will continue to communicate with. But even then, it's unwise to let go of family. They might be a pain, but they're still your family. It's a shame we don't get any choice though, isn't it? :o)
2006-08-07 01:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by epiCure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is easy to see other people as better, more attractive, more loving than the people you are always around. One reason for that is that you may be seeing them only when they are at their best, their houses are cleanest, their make-up is just right. Movies hope that's how we see their actors so we will identify with them.
That is why we have the saying, "The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence."
I do hope that your cousins family love you and treat you great. Rather than trying to make a choice between one family or another, I hope you will realize that your world just got a little brighter and share some of that brightness with everyone around you.
Good luck.
2006-08-07 01:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say go with the people who love you. I had a similar experience. My sister-in-law's family (I was dating her sister for a while too) made me feel more a member of the family than my real family ever did. The tough thing was when she and my brother got divorced, I lost touch with all her family and now I miss them terribly.
2006-08-07 01:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First talk to your cousin's family to see if they'll accept you. Then ask permission from your own family heads.
If you are being abused or neglected, call Children and Family Services and get a good lawyer.
2006-08-07 01:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you about my situation... I lived with my mother (and i never knew my dad since he left my mom when she was pregnant with me) and my 2 sisters... One of the had ADHD and is really hard for my mom... and our life was shitty... so we moved to a new city so we could be closer to my grandparents. But when we got there and after a few months my mom started to get paranoid and stopped asking for help beacuse she was scared that my grandparents would try to steal her kids..... so me being the oldest i stood up to my mom and told her how much of a **** mother she was being... and i left her... now i am living with my grandparents and i don't have one regret. My life is good i don't live in a **** house and i don't have my mom scolding at me for ............ well everything. I decided she didn't love me the way she should have... and maybe one day when she realizes that she was wrong i will move back with her... but its my grandparents are the ones that love me.... and i love them.
2006-08-07 01:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by Tho Deep ught 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't you live with both? i know it's really difficult but i suggest that you still stay with your real family. no one can ever replace them you know... at first, your cousin's family will be very nice to you but after some time of being with them, they will see your bad side and you will see theirs. atleast your real family accepts you for who you really are
2006-08-07 01:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by seishinfuzen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have an open honest talk with both families explaining how you feel. I'm sure you can reach a mutual agreement that will work for all.
2006-08-07 01:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are. Your age makes a lot of difference about how this is answered. Can't you visit with these people, as opposed to moving with them? And do they even want you to move with them? If they say no, it could cause hard feelings.
2006-08-07 01:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by julielove327 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ar every blessed an di bet your family is very blessed to have you.
what a wonderful thing to b ein a family like yours.
i hope the world smiles upon your today
2006-08-07 01:04:02 · answer #11 · answered by manyhartz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋