how can we friends again after this?

Question

became really good friends w/ this guy and we started to act like were something else even if we werent.we even say i love yous but not that kind of way like bfs&gfs would.ppol were starting 2 notice our behavior & asking if wer more than friends & we wud say no bcoz thats the truth.in oder 2 stop d askng,i started ignong his msgs & wud always say dat m busy.i guess that did the trick bcoz the whole thing stopped.even our friendship...
now,i wanted thngs to b back like it used to...i tried talking to him everytime we meet but he wud just stare at me& give me a single reply. he also told me once that he wanted to b friends w/ me again...& now im making an effort 2 regain dat friendship.
i'm confused.i am startng to think dat we cant have dat frnship again bcoz somthing did came up btwn us although we just wudn't admit it...

Answer 1

Look, it is possible for a guy to be and act as a platonic friend and still appeciate you sexually. It's a girl thing to divide men into "doable" and "non-doable" categories. More than likely what you did is by behaving in this fashion is inflate his pride a bit. Sure, he probably understood you were "just friends" and had no intentions to change that, but it is still going to hurt when you turn around and emphasize he lacked sexual potential in your eyes. He probably isn't broken hearted, but his pride is hurt and it is something that you're going to need to mend before you're able to be friends again.

Answer 2

If you're confused, you can bet that poor guy is pretty confused too!

You start by being his friend, and then doing things that are even beyond friendship, and then you give him the cold shoulder?! What sort of a way is that to be treating someone you consider a friend?

I understand why you did it -- it's uncomfortable when people pry into your life and you just want it to stop. But that wasn't his fault. Maybe you could explain all of this to him and tell him how sorry you are. Maybe write him a letter if you can't say it in person, but I'm a big believer in doing the in-person thing.

Maybe he likes you as more than a friend and thought you liked him in that way too? Speak to him and sort out the miscommunication. Good luck to you - because he sounds like someone who was very special to you and it would be a shame to lose his friendship.

Answer 3

well, it probably really confused him when you started ignoring him in the first place. its hard when friends do that and the friend who has it done to doesn't even know the reason why. he didn't do anything wrong to you, so he didn't deserve that kind of treatment. i don't blame him for just staring at you and giving a single reply. i would do the same to a friend who just blocked me away even if i didn't do anything wrong.

you have to say sorry to him, and tell him why you did it. if you're lucky, he'll forgive you and want to start the friendship again. if not, then that's the consequence you deserve for just cutting him off that way.

i know this is an answer you didn't like to hear, but its life. you can't just cut people off if they didn't do anything wrong to you. in your situation, the wisest thing would be to tell him why you're acting this way and maybe talk it out. i don't think he was ready to stop talking to you like that. also, everything you do has consequences, and you have to understand that he is also a human, and he has feelings, so don't cut people off just like that. next time, give them your reason so they will understand why you're doing it to them.

Answer 4

Talk to him, and tell him the truth... if he is really a friend, he won't mind your reaction at that weird situation u guys were going through. Just start to hang out little by little and soon you'll be as good friends as u used to be... believe me, I recently passed through a situation that was a little like this one, and I did this, and we are regaining our friendship :)

I hope everything works out for ya! :)