I have been in a marriage for 10 years now. When I met my husband he was divorced for a year. He has two children from that marriage. They are now 11 and 15. His ex conntinually takes us to court for more money every year and in the past 5 years it has increassingly got worse. She has remarried and lives in a million dollar home and enjoys all the immenities of life, I.E. vacations, maids, jewlery and so on. We live in a regular track home that has been remodled but no where near a million dollar home. My husband has always gone out of his way to take care of his kids. We now have two children of our own. We have made every effort to make a six person family while we have the teo girls from the previous.They are included in our vacations and family life. The ex lies and won't allow us to have the girls and in constantly difficult. When we go to court and spend thousands of dollars fighting back and forth she does nothing but lie to try to get the court on her side.i am at my witts end
2006-08-06 17:38:38 · 9 answers · asked by blended trouble 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not sure as to why you would go to court constantly and fight back and forth?? In the divorce papers it should have set visitation, vacation, child support, etc. stated. If there is visitation allowed to your husband, then she is in contempt if she is not allowing the set time. I really don't think there is a magical solution when you are dealing with difficult ex's....why in the world would a woman with so much want to continually create hardship for your family? The girls must know that their father loves them and they will realize as they become older that Mom is to blame if she is bad-mouthing Dad, but Dad is not doing the same. I guess you can look at this as.....even if you have alot of money doesn't make you a contented & happy person. Has your family gone to any type of family counseling to have a professional provide some possible insight and solution to this ongoing stress? Bottom line is those girls are also his and some women seem to think just because they gave birth automatically makes them have the upper-hand...so so sad.
2006-08-06 17:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
time to have a heart to heart with the kids. They are at an age when the court will listen to them loudly! Depends on your state but the litigation to increase support (and I can not tell if it is child or spousal) depends on a number of factors. Her new husbands income may be an issue as it goes to quality of life. If she is not working, likely, then the court can impute income based on her potential and lower what is owed.
also the threat of evaluation when it comes to the children may be a way to go. Not cheap but it is for the benefit of the children, not the parents. $$ has little influence here if you can get a good evaluator.
Pretty much let your kids be your guide. Good luck.
2006-08-07 05:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by timbother@pacbell.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that is tough and it seems that some courts rule in favor of a mother no matter what. You should keep up with all expenses. Every dime you spend on the girls that is not child support. Buy a recorder so you can tape every single conversation with her. If she lies you have it on tape. Then never see her without a witness or a video recorder going . Make her accountable for her lies and deception!!! Radio shack has all you need.
2006-08-06 17:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why the hell would you get into the middle of this mess on purpose stay 10 years bring 2 kids into this crap and then complain about the bull shiit, from where I sit you did this to your self you chose to be with him and his EX, and I'll bet your saying that's not true its all her but the reality is you had a choice not to be in the middle but you ignored everything and said " but he loves me and it will be alright cause the ex won't make things to hard i can handle her" right????
2006-08-06 18:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by 4stringthndr 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2017-03-03 14:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in GOD, pray to HIM. If not, ask her what she wants. What's happening here is that, apparently you people are happy but she is not that happy with her new marriage (in spite of the million-dollar home and what not!!) - that's why she is trying to wreck your happiness - Keep your cool - if possible, please pray for her - I also promise to pray for all of you all!!
2006-08-06 17:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you get an attorney to represent you and show that you do not have the income to be able to continuously meet her finanacial need for revenge.
2006-08-06 17:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by manyhartz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is your husband's deal, not yours.
2006-08-06 17:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better play dirty
2006-08-06 17:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by ricosuarve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋