why do people think that people of the opposite sex are attractive only if they look a certain way?

Question

i know EVERYONE doesn't, but most people won't even if someone has a great personality. i mean, i don't think it really matters as long as they try their best to look good. it's nobody's falt the way they're born, right? not even the good-looking people, if you think about it?
and how come USUALLY white people date each other, not indians, asians, hispanics, and blacks?
again, im not saying that everyone acts this way im just saying people in general are like this.

Answer 1

People tend to be shallow... and they also tend to be concerned with what other people think. Personally, I find people to be attractive for many reasons beyond physical, and I don't even think about race as a factor in attractiveness.

Answer 2

I know how you feel. Perhaps, these shallower people will learn how much skin deep beauty is worth when they get older and find less and less women that fit their ever-narrowing range, and suddenly realize they have to struggle to find a way to love genuinely and not feel alone. Maybe they learn this along the way. Maybe they learn this after marrying the wrong person...

I guess what I'm saying is, how you look is important, initially, but throwing away a chance to get to know someone whom you don't find that attractive, is throwing away a chance to grow and change yourself, and maybe find some real happiness. I think one finds attractive those features that had previously made them happy in some way.

Unfortunately, physical features like that do not carry amounts of happiness with them, they are just shapes and lines. If you give some shapes and lines you haven't previously experienced happiness with, a chance, maybe YOU will change and find some new features a source of happiness, effectively teaching you: that if you are attracted to someone's personality, you may very well begin to find them attractive when you previously had not been attracted to them.

Answer 3

before we meet someone we (everybody) form an opinion about that person based on clothing the way the stand and walk and also the way they look. everybody does it and everybody begins to paint a picture of how they see that person before that person even begins to speak. this does not only apply to people of the opposite sex but to people of the same gender as well.
as for can an unattractive person overcome the stigma associated with their physical appearance and hook up with someone who is good looking the answer is yes. but it is very hard work because they have to overcome that initial judgment. and on top of that there are also attractive people out there who also have great personalities that the less attractive person must compete against.

Answer 4

Everyone has their preferences. Some might be only into looks now, but maybe after a lot of years of good/bad experiences, their priorities could change as to where they focus more on the personality when trying to find a soulmate.

Answer 5

People are brought up to believe certain things and in today's world things like that exists everywhere, I blame today's culture and our media has put a lot of images in our heads about how we should only look at what's on the outside and how a person was raised.

Answer 6

Attraction is a personal preference.I was married to a black man for almost 20yrs & now I am not atracted to dark men of any race.My tastes have just changed.Not against anyone & I still find men of all races attractive,just not attracted in that way to them.
I say,if you find love,no matter who it is with,then hang onto it!As long as it is mutual.

Answer 7

good question. i don't know the answer, i'm not the hottest girl out there by far, but i am attracted to hot guys. just like guys who aren't the hottest are still attracted to hot girls.

but definitely i think that people who actually get far in a good relationship are the ones who do NOT get together because they are hot, but because of their personalities.

Answer 8

i would have to say it has a lot to do with society and cultural reasons. People tend to conform to their usual ways of their particular environment within their group of society..

Answer 9

because they're shallow. or maybe they just like don't want like a serious relationship or something. and iuno about like the races lol maybe they're just.. not attracted to them.. lol like you said but i seriously think that ppl should give like give other ppl a chance lol

Answer 10

There is a physical atraction and a mental atraction, just like addictions