Recently my SO said the following: "I could have anyone I want, but I choose to be with you."
When I asked for clarification re: the comment he said, "Well it's true. I'm a nice guy."
He then went on to say it was meant as a compliment and that I should not take it as anything else. That what he was acutally saying was that he loves me, and wants to be with only me and no one else.
He also says that I should take meaning from the "intent" of his words, not the actual words; and that since I do not, that is why I "misinterpret" what he says.
I am offended, think the comment is egotistical, and that it infers I am "lucky" to have him.
I also think that his words should match his emotions, and I should not be expected to take meaning from "intentions" - that this is unrealistic.
Opinions??????
2006-08-06 17:31:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Okay okay...I've had this said to me many times..and in the end they turn out to be PLAYERS...and yeah your interpretation is so right...that ***...i think HE should be saying that HE'S lucky to have YOU...do your heart a favor and leave him...and let him go with the other girls he talks about...
2006-08-06 17:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kikkis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not even gon lie 2 u n say it could b taken either way. Honestly, i think u have every right 2 be offended. I hate when ppl talk like that, like ur lucky 2 have them or something. N the fact that this clown is tryna his best 2 explain it 2 u n tell u what "u should take it as" let's me further kno.... Sound like this dude think he all that n a slice of sweet potato pie. I ain't tryna dawg ur man out or nuthin like that, but when ppl talk like that, they most times just as bitter as a 5 day old strawberry that sat in water a lil bit 2 doggone long. Tell him he need 2 calm down, b4 u mess around n get loose on him. The way i c it, he should've just kept that 1 2 himself, n u didn't deserve 2 hear such an arrogant thing....
2006-08-07 01:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Musically Inclined 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that all depends on how you look at it. I can see that it was meant to be a complimant. The fact that out of everyone in the world he chose to be with you, but maybe he needs to learn how to put things a little bit better. Try talking to him, calmly about it, and rather than saying things that will make him feel like your ganging up on him, say something like, "I really love it when you say ...........", but it makes me feel ....... when you say .......... get what I mean??? And no offense or n e thing, but ur guy is olny do what females around the world do... how many times can a guy as you whants wrong, and you reply, "nothing", when you beileve that he should KNOW there's sumfin wrong, and what it is.... As long as he doesn't do/say things like that everytime he tells you he loves you, then i don't see that theres a huge problem.
2006-08-07 00:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by cassycookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like he was intending at first to make you realize how "lucky" you are to have him. He was probably intending to stroke his ego and maybe even thought that you would agree with his statement. Once he realized that you didn't like his comment he tried to play it off as a compliment when it really wasn't totally about you. It was probably about his need to feel as though he is capable of getting any woman he wants and his need to let you know that "fact". This is all for his ego. Sounds like he is feeling a little insecure. Kinda ironic I know. Hope this helps.
2006-08-07 00:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by blueice_1820 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he has a huge ego problem. Why would he say such a thing to you. I think he is insecure. I wouldn't take it as a compliment. If he were that great he wouldn't have to tell you about how nice he is. You would just be able to see it for your self
2006-08-15 00:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people have a hard time saying what they mean.
And it is not what he said, but how he said it.
Do not read things into it, if you asked and he clarified what he meant by it then trust in what he says.
Without trust there is no relationship.
2006-08-14 23:47:10 · answer #6 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was a compliment coming from an over inflated ego, which turns it into a slam,, kick him in the groin and find a good man
2006-08-14 02:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by kewl69charger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 62 year old married man with daughters and can tell you this guy sounds like a bum. Don't be a bum magnet. Dump him.
2006-08-14 22:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by willy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a two way street. I don't know that anyone could have anyone they wanted. He really sounds insecure to me.
It sounds to me like ,he knows, that you could have someone else if you wanted!
2006-08-14 22:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right on in your thinking.
Your response should've been..."I too could have any other person I want, but honey, don't worry...I choose to be with you." (wink)
2006-08-07 00:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by AB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋