Let's say your spouse did not want children. He/she was honest about that from the beginning, so you can't get mad at him or her. You had no desire to have children when you got married either, so it didn't bother you. However, as the years have passed, you've started to think more and more about having a child. How would you address this problem?
2006-08-06 17:24:41 · 11 answers · asked by Kiki 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a tough one. You already decided together from the start that you would not have a family, but you have changed you mind over the years? First, i'd say talk to him/her and see if his/her opinion has also changed. It's possible. If you can't agree, give it a while. Ask him/her to keep an open mind and give it some though. Calmly and rationally explain to him/her why you have changed your mind. Explain how you feel. If in time you unable to come to an agreement, and you are still wanting to have a child, you will have to decide what is more important to you. Having a child, or staying with your partner.
Good luck to you....
2006-08-06 17:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥Sasha♥~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a problem. My parents got divorced because one of them had a major change in their life and the other didn't adjust or change at all. Two people in a marriage have to change together. Try getting him to understand how you feel and how you came to this desire to have kids. If he understands what you're feeling, then maybe over time he'll move in that direction too.
2006-08-06 18:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to your spouse about it, it's entirely possible they are having second thoughts as well. It's possible that when they see your desire, they may be swayed.
But, you knew the deal going in, realize that simply changing one's mind about something shouldn't be enough to endanger the wedding vows (unless the changed mind directly refuted those vows), and if it does, then your marriage wasn't that strong to begin with.
2006-08-06 17:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book Baby Proof by Emily Giffin. It's a novel but deals with this exact topic.
2006-08-06 17:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talk about it again. people change their minds over the years, when i first met my husband he hated the idea of having children, but after we got married and had a long talk about the case he realized he was stupid for thinking that, and we are now pregnant
2006-08-06 17:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by xcx_zqz_kvk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would push the situation show him\her how i have changed my mind about it and maybe he\she will do the same. I will also make sure that he\she knows a house is not a home with out your own
2006-08-06 17:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to respect his wishes. he told u from the start so its not like u lied to u. if anything its u who have wronged because u've changed ur mind. u have to decide whether u want to stay with him or u want to move on and have children with another man.
2006-08-06 17:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by dvl_n_dskyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 00:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, you made your own bed, here. If you truly cannot now see a life with your husband without children, you have to seriously think about leaving him.
2006-08-07 01:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD JUST TELL HIM/HER THAT NOW THING HAVE
CHANGE, AND NOW YOU ARE SERIOULY THINKING ABOUT
CHILDREN. BUT YOU KNOW THAT MAY BE A STICKY
ONE, IF HE/SHE HAS ALREADY MADE IT CLEAR HOW THEY
FEEL, SO YOU MAY HAVE SOME ROUGH ROAD HEAD OF
YOU. SO BE PREPARED FOR IT.
2006-08-06 17:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋