the mother wants the child back after 6 years?

Question

the mother has not paid child support for almost a year and the child is under phychiatric as well as therapy for emotional problems do to the fact that he does not want to leave with his mother she has seen him maybe 4 times in a year, the grandmother asked the court for perment custudy and was only given temporary custudy but the child has been with the father and the perternal grandmother since he was 6 months old. the mother has given nsf checks and has gotten her license suspended by child support because she does not contact them about the over due child support

Answer 1

I am a grandmother with conservatory custody of my grandchild. And I have been raising her since she was about 6 months, she is now 6 years.
Her mother has not paid child support in the 6 yrs and just recently called me to tell me that she has been served with papers to go to court from the attorney general.

You can get an attorney and petition the courts for conservatory custody which means that you have most of the rights. The parents would be given possessatory (sp) custody and visitation plus have to pay child support.
And if I'm not mistaken the only way you are going to get full custody is if both parents sign over their paternal rights or you can go to court and prove both parents as unfit.
The father has a better chance of petitioning the courts for full or majority custody.
And just because a parent does not pay child support does not mean that the courts will take custody away from her. One does not usually have anything to do with the other unless you petition the courts and it is brought into evidence to support your case.


And my question to you would be WHY is this small child in therapy about not wanting to live with the mother? Unless the mother is extremely abusive then the child should not be feeling this scared of his mother.
And I am hoping like hell that you nor your son are bad mouthing this child's mother in front of him. That you are not filling his head full of terrible things about his mother. Cause no matter how yall feel about this woman she is still his mother and will always be his mother no matter what you say or do. And putting a child in this situation is cruel. Any ill feelings that you and your son have about his mother should NEVER be verbalized in front of this child, this child should never hear bad things about his mom, he is to young and he is going to be permanently scared by all this. And it will be you and the son that will regret this in the long run because this boy will hold it against you later in his life. This boy should always have some kind of relationship with his mother. Even if the visitations have to be monitored by someone else. Unless of course she is abusing him and then both of them should be in therapy. But I just cant imagine what this mother could have done to cause her son to be this traumatized. Which makes me wonder if you and your son have had something to do with his feelings.
My grandchild still sees her mother, her mother visits and spends the nights/weekends once in awhile. My grandchild calls me momma and calls her mother by her first name BUT she knows that my daughter is her biological mother and that she gave birth to her. We just explain it as that she could not financially take care of her so I am. And she will be told the truth when she is older and can understand everything.
But I never bad mouth my daughter in front of my grandchild. I could never willingly hurt my grandchild like that and make her feel like her mother did not want her, make her feel like she isn't loved by her mother or anyone else.