I'm In this situation??/?

Question

I have an ex who I have still been involved with over the last 15 years, we love each other dearly but have separate lives. Recently me & my daughter's father split so I am single He is still in a relationship with his son's mother, for (5years now), over the last 6 years we have been intimate 3 times, so it was mostly a great friendship , but a little more, Well now I'm 6 weeks pregnant, & things are really bad right now,His girlfriend now knows & she is forcing him by threatening him with his son whom he loves so much, not to have anyhing to do with me or OUR baby, what should I do, Just sit back & wait or try to find out what he really wants to do. I have had no contact with him since 3 days after I told him I was pregnant, which is when he finally told her. PLEASE HELP ME










lost & alone& pregnant

my daughters father became abusive so thats y we are not 2gether anymore my daughter doesnt need that

my daughter's father is not the same man i'm refering to now

Answer 1

I feel sorry for u dear..
Just understand this Quote and proceed with life.
"Tough Time Never lasts, but Tough People do."
IM me if u need further advice

Answer 2

The mother of his other child has no control over whether he is allowed to have anything to do with you and your child. At least, he shouldn't give her that much control, anyway. This is quite a predicament he's gotten himself into, and if he was so unhappy with her, he should have just broken things off with her if he was planning to get with you. Whether she likes it or not, she is going to have to deal with the fact that he now has another child who is going to need his love, support, and attention, and although that sucks for her, that is the situation he has put her in and forced her to deal with. You shouldn't have messed around with him knowing that he was still in a relationship with someone else. That makes you something of a homewrecker, and I don't blame the other woman for being mad about that. Because of his and your selfishness and lack of self control, her world has now been turned upside down. Try to look at it from her perspective, and imagine how you would feel. I don't know why you'd want to consider something long term with a guy who obviously has commitment issues. You mentioned that being in an abusive relationship is not good for your daughter... well, neither is this situation- you're showing her it's OK to move in on another woman's territory and start a family with a man who already has one. You're also showing her that a guy who cheats on his girlfriend to be with you makes an acceptable boyfriend. She will grow up thinking fidelity is of no importance whatsoever. Not trying to be insulting here, just being a straight shooter. There is no easy solution to this problem; you will have to suffer the consequences for bedding down with a man who was already taken by someone else.

Answer 3

You got yourself into this mess. What did you expect when you were cheating? Now you have another child to support. I hope you have a good job and start thinking of finding a way to support you and your kids without needing a man in your life if it comes to that. Who knows if your ex will pick you over his current girlfriend? Wouldn't it be ironic if he did then got another girlfriend pregnant while he was back with you? Get yourself together and give this new baby the best mom it can have.

Answer 4

Ouch. It's a terrible situation. However, the rules of relationships dictate that the one in the current relationship needs to stay in that relationship. If you and he did things that could destroy that relationship with his son and the son's mother, then that was the risk he took. My guess is that he will stick with his son and you will be left with a baby and no man to take responsibility for it. Either you need to decide to raise the baby or have it adopted. Perhaps the latter option is the one to take since you didn't have the sense to do the right thing with your ex boyfriend. Good luck

Answer 5

I would follow your heart and what you want
to do.He is in a relationship however he has
made some choices and it has left you hanging
and unsure.But,now that his current girlfriend
knows about it all.I would clearly make it known
what exactly you want.Or don't continue on with
him any longer in an intimate relationship when
he does contact you again or try to come around.
I would do what is best for you and your unborn
baby.

Answer 6

Your comment is confusing and jumbled. Is your ex and your daughter's father the same person? Or two different? Also, and this is my opinion only.....

You allowed yourself to get into a relationship with a man who was already taken. Cheaters never prosper. Now you have bigger problems. Was it worth it?

Answer 7

Whats your question ? You already said that your daughter does not need that. Thats your answer !