Hi All;)..Why do men jump into a relationship.. after a long term relationship break up?;)?

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Thanks, for answering, in advance!;)
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I am just curious ...

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Jp, LoL
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I don't mean : "All men" .. :)
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Answer 1

because they cant take of themselves. in my opinion they jump in a new relationship before the other one has ended, just to make sure they are not gonna be alone.

Answer 2

Some men jump into another relationship because the long term relationship was probably over with to him the start with and he was just waiting for a break up.

Answer 3

Another great Q! LOL!

Not all of us do-!!! Some of us have grieving periods (no matter what the reasons for the split) and a time where we just are “With” ourselves again to remember and adjust and heal in some way from the loss. From what I’ve seen and understand the person that does this suffers from a fairly shallow and avoidance approach to themselves and others (meaning if they feel things deeply on a soul level it’s either too much to cope and deal with or too challenging and real or else they really just prefer to be shallow and superficial)… It’s a tough question. I’ve really only seen and heard about this from those perspectives- I’ve never heard of anyone well adjusted and capable of sincerity and depth of emotions and real love doing this sort of thing- so it’s another one of those dysfunctional continuing to live in pretense sorts of things. I.E. ANYTHING and ANYONE is good enough for them- which is why a PERSON jumps into something so quickly.

Doesn’t take much I guess- which means your special qualities were kinda “wasted” in many ways on them, eh? LOL!!!! Anyone would do- and does –they don’t need someone special or something really deep or meaningful.

And that is ok too.
Maybe not what we want though sometimes, eh?

It is funny you mention "men" do this- In my life I've only ever seen WOMEN do this- usually with someone BEFORE they've actually even broken up (almost as a rule= “gotta have a man to be ok” BS women tend to get taught far too much)- as the means to GET OUT of one relationship getting involved in another. It’s not endemic to one sex or the other though, but it is endemic of an avoidance-of-self quality a person can take in general

I think a lot of people suffer from either some form of the "love addictions" (sex, romance, relationship addiction in some form or another) or else we PEOPLE are just trying to have a need met through another. Some needs this is necessity and some needs we avoid and displace because we can’t handle what we REALLY need to look at and face in ourselves.

Really loving someone when we don’t love even ourselves is one choice a lot of people wrestle with. Getting our “needs” met can help build up that we are worthy of love. Unfortunately this is usually the case with someone who lacks discernment and self-love or the ABILITY to love another deeply yet- the very thing that would TEACH how to be loving to being with!!!!

No matter what your gender is (or sex, as it were), if this is something you "do" then you suffer from one of the "love" addictions. Meaning it is probably a great escape to focus on someone else and one's external needs being met vs. the inner life and self.

Ironically this is exactly the attitude which makes any LTR relationship impossibility.

If this sort of BEHAVIOR in another HURTS, then learning to RECOGNIZE what someone is getting INVOLVED for and about will clue you in to that they are a person that seeks to figure themselves out through other people and avoid doing the real work on their own.

It's hard not to judge someone when they hurt us sometimes, eh?
I've found the policy of not taking it personally the best and most self-empowering real-world technique around. Works in all kinds of ways.

We all "project our reality" always.
Not everyone behaves in these ways. *chuckle*

Answer 4

It depends on the situation, whether or not he was the dumper or dumpee. If he was the dumper..he need might need continuous "fun" loving. If he was the dumpee....same thing, but more than likely his ego was bruised so he wants to make sure he's still attractive..he's still got game, he's lonely and he needs to feel wanted again.
If you're intending on dating a guy like this..I'd suggest to give him some space to work things out for himself first, if not he'll become too attached to YOU.

Answer 5

Confidence. Maybe the particular men you've seen do this didn't think the relationship was real serious.

Answer 6

Most likely the typical "rebound" scenerio....He haven't "truly" dealt with their feelings from the LTR breakup and they "think" that a new relationship will erase the hurt / pain, but it doesn't work.

Cheers!

Answer 7

Rebound. How do you get over breaking up with someone that you've spent alot of time with. By spending time with someone else. Just that simple.

Answer 8

maybe because that long term relationship didn't work out and maybe they just need someone cant be by themself . Just have to have a lover

Answer 9

Because men are needy. They never have to do things for themselves. Their moms take care of them and then they take advantage of girls to get things and then they find a woman they love and they take care of them.

Answer 10

Its usually the female that rebounds first, but the ansere to your query is 'Das Knookie