Depression for this long?

Question

I had my baby July 7th of last year. i had post pardom depression badly. i didnt have the desire to move, to laugh, to sleep, to eat, to enjoy a conversation, enjoy life period. Now its been little over a year and i still feel the depression. I feel wilted inside. I have no desire to move, no desire to laugh or play. i feel a constant 'pain or aggrivation' within me. i argue with my husband a lot and its my fault. i prefer to be on my own whenever the chance appears and i have lost the feel for laughing. are there any mothers out there that feel this as well? i know i am needing some help, i plan on it. but i just want to know how normal is this? after a year of having my son i still feel this way. i thought birthing depressions left around 3-5 months after the birth.

Answer 1

I am very sorry that you are feeling this way. Talk to your doctor and perhaps a mature friend too. This is a long time for you to endure the pain. Ask your husband to help you with an appointment and with the babysitter. I assume you are a stay at home mom, which is great, although you don't say.

Perhaps you need more guiet time/or less time at home with your child and the many duties a new mother has.

Decide which things overwhelm you the most and then look into some practical change - without feeling that your feelings do not matter. They matter a lot. Your husband should want to help - if he is helped to understand.

Answer 2

I am not a woman, but I am a parent. I hope you are being treated by a professional psychiatrist. Sometimes Depression is caused by a lack of a chemical in your brain. Doctors can replace the lacking chemical and you will feel better over time. In fact, if the medicine is right for you, it can make you feel better in a short time. But, in my experience, medicines have to be change over time, so don't think the first or even the second medicine you are prescribed well be the answer forever.
But, from my experience, you will feel much better.
Also, you may have been living with some depression before you had a baby. The post pardom can exacerbate your existing depression. In other words, one thing makes the other worse.
You need to sort this out, and your professional can help you directly or by medicating you and then referring you for counseling.
I probably have some of this wrong, but the basic point I am making is a general point. You need both counseling and medication probably.
You will come out of it if you seek help, please. Good luck!

Answer 3

If you had post pardum depression bad, I hope you told a doctor. Although it is normal to have the baby blues, it's not OK to get as down as you have. The doctor should have put you on some medication then to get your chemical levels balanced. Please see a doctor soon. There's no reason for you to live this way, or to put your family through such pain.