please i really need some help?

Question

there is this girl that was trying to break me and my bf up by
saying whole bunch of stuff to people. well we decided to tell her to stop. (me and my bf) we did NOT threaten her OR cuss her out! she said she was sorrya and then left. can she take it to the court and say that we harrassed her?????? im just wanderin. because we chose our words carefully. she was by her self also.

thank you for helping!! sorry it is too long

Answer 1

This seems like more of an issue for your Guidance Counselor at Douchebag High than an issue for the Police.

Answer 2

I don't think she can do much of anything. If she was alone it would be nothing more than word of mouth. If there were in fact threats made (and by threats I mean threats- remember that an opinion can be said as just that- an opinion. A fact of the matter would remain a fact and you could be held accountable for it. For example: "I'll make you bloody" is a threat. "I think you should be bloodier than I am" is an opinion. Though I do have to add your Lawer would have to be damn good because under the circumstance any such thing said would be taken as a threat to someone's personal safety, opinion or not.) Either way, I doubt this girl would take legal action on something as petty as a relationship. If she threatened to sue you, she would probably have no basis on it and is only threatening to ruffle your feathers. If this does in fact bother you, what I would recommend doing is get at least three credible witnesses to her harrassing you. Get three people to write out statements saying how they have personally heard or saw her saying these things about your boyfriend and yourself. If anything comes up out of it, you will have three willing witnesses and thier written statements against her when she will have nothing but her word. I'd be willing to bet money that the policeman would then give her a warning to stop communication with you and your boyfriend, a warning that if she doesn't heed, she could get legal reprecussions herself. So, that being said, good luck!

Answer 3

It's only harrassment if you threatened her in some way or disturbed her privacy, like by calling her house or stalking her or something. Having a verbal disagreement with someone isn't against the law. And even if she DID want to take you to court, she would have to be able to document and prove everything you said to her that she has an issue with.

Answer 4

well I think any1 may be able to take anything to court, but it's highly unlikely she will. and this doesn't sound like the kind of thing that she'd win anyway. I wouldn't worry about it. If you & your bf both know what's going on then just ignore it.... she'll try harder then give up eventually. However if she doesn't then it's her that is being the bothersome person and YOU can file harrassment charges on her. Hopefully it won't go that far though....

Answer 5

well the courts would feel like it is wasting their time but before she can go to court to she has to have proof and now a days the courts are requiring that you now have police reports to back up your claim and I really doubt someone would go through all the headache and have to be prosecuted unless they are krazy so yeah she can take it to court and if you are telling the truth about what is going on yes you may even be able to get an order of protection on both sides so that she will stay away from you and you stay away from her using the court system to resolve a problem is a serious offense when you lie so think about that

Answer 6

People can take you to court for anything. They can make up all kinds of accusations if they want to simply harrass you. But as for WINNING a court battle, that's different. It's a matter of her proving in court what happened. In this case, a witness is needed.

Answer 7

Not really. It's considered a civil matter and police don't intervene really unless it gets violent.

Basically the police will file a report if anything and if it gets extreme, they can issue out a restraining order. If you (or her) disobey the restraining order, then you'll find yourself in trouble.

But mostly, they'll probably just tell her to grow up, it's a civil matter, and to ignore you and leave you alone.

That is unless she decides to sue you. Which she'd have to hire a lawyer and all that non-sense.

Answer 8

First off, she would have to call the police and tell them that she was being harassed by you and then the police would have to investigate the whole situation.

She could do something... If she lies and says you two harassed her. But I would think she would need someone to say they heard you harassing her...

It would be really hard for her to prove anything if there was only the three of you there. Obviously she would need someone to lie for her and say they heard and saw the whole incident.

Good Luck with the situation.

Answer 9

OK. Here is the deal.
She can say you guys harassed her. She can lodge a complaint. But to take matters to court involves money, time and energy. Now that is something that a person can stand upto if only they have all these OR if they are telling truth.
So I think you are gonna be fine.

Answer 10

From what you have stated in your question there would be no case for harassment. Harassment has to be something that is done deliberately to hurt someone like posting totaling false information about them on the web or in newspapers that causes them some sort of harm, like loss of money.

Just telling her to leave you alone is not harassment.

Answer 11

Are you sure you didn't threaten or harass her? Because if you didn't, why are you worried that she would perceive it that way? Normally, nobody considers whether or not a normal conversation they had is going to end up as a case against them in court. Only people who walk shaky lines wonder whether or not they are going to get a harassment charge slapped on them.