Hi All;) ..What are the disadvantages of giving someone life advice?;)?

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Answer 1

Interesting question AGAIN!

Well I agree with some of the above- seems valid. This is kind of a catch-22 Q though, really.

If we give advice and care about our time and energy vs. the other's real experience of being alive then if it isn't "followed' or we don't get the results WE wanted (control of another? WTF?) Then I've found we have judgments made either on us or against us- but it isn't our responsibility what the other does or chooses. So this attachment (esp. hard to let go of if the source asking or we're giving it to is offspring or family, eh?)... to the result keeps us IN the attachment vs. the process OF learning!
sooo...

Maybe it's more important to just help someone understand things we might have done and what results we got based on what we choose and HOW and WHY we choose what we did- esp. if it relates to something they are asking about.

I've noticed a tendency in people- including myself, to learn the hard way and the way WE want to learn. When people really ask they don't want to often REALLY be told or know what to do, they want to just be validated that they are choosing what they are choosing.

Meaning we people are going to do what we want to do eventually no matter what. So advice given might be better served to serve that purpose- as just an example of what worked or didn't work for US... And that maybe it will be very different for them.

Allowing another the FREEDOM (the same freedoms we'd want for ourselves too)- to fail and mess up or fail -big time, even destroy ourselves, is a great exercise in learning and demonstrating the importance of self-learned wisdom.

What a GIFT to give another= the freedom to choose- and not loose our caring, support or our love!

Answer 2

I think really that most people do not actually want you to give them actual advice. They want someone to bounce ideas off. They want someone to help them find the answers themselves. They want an unbiased listening ear. So I suggest you just listen...its safer. Cos I have found that you get the blame if what you said turns out to be unhelpful.
However if you have been in a very similar situation or experience then you are qualified to say what helped you but always say...."You must do what you think is best. Ask other people and then decide for yourself. I can only make suggestions."
You can also direct people to places which give advice professsionally. There are many that are free.
Be careful if you do give advice...that it is wise general principles that you know will help. Other wise just be there for the person and listen ...drawing out there own inner feelings.

Answer 3

They can take your advice and be happy with the results or they will blame you for all the failure that your advise arose from ... children need advise in order to be able to deal with the worlds problems no matter how small ...another disadvantage is that the ad visor is controlling the other person in a way disabling that person from learning to make their own choices and learning from their mistakes ...

Answer 4

it could be the wrong answer..you don't know whats going on but your own input could make it worse hopefully the person reading will be able to decide safely what they need to do and not..√so far there has been some people on here with some pretty bad problems and looks like pouring their heart out and i have seen people open up and be very compassionate♥ and this is a great thing☺

Answer 5

Hopefully, people mean well when they give life advice--as opposed to people who just like the sound of their own voice and bark out whatever gibberish that comes to mind.

Of course you aren't responsible for the consequences of the advice you give (particularly the ones that are solicited), because they translate to "mere" opinions. It boils down to whether the other person adheres to what you've offered.

Simply, you've empowered them with your knowledge so that they hopefully could come to a better understanding of their dilemma and come to a better conclusion given a different perspective or amplify it with your agreement.

Answer 6

The main one that comes to mind is the fact that people will not take on board a thing you say unless they are ready to do so. So the dis advantage is giving a person your knowledge without the ability for it to even soak in

Answer 7

I think it was Mark Twain who said be careful of reading health books you might die of a misprint....

the same can be applied to giving or receiving advice from others..

the main disavantage is that if you advise someone on life issues and they follow your advice and end up in trouble or end up being hurt they may well blame you...

Answer 8

It depends on the advice - how needed it really is - and whether or not it is invited.
Otherwise do not do it - unless you are saving a life - it's rude and insulting to give you own opinions about things when they are not asked for.

Answer 9

Hi ! U;).. Non but one, the only disadvantage of giving someone life advice, in my own opinion's, that the question whether adviced person would raise any doubt or trust U, to follow as per advices given by U.
My pleasure, & U R most welcome (again) Ms.kimberley.

Answer 10

Everyone has the right to discover for themselves who and what they want to be. If we are invited to shed some light on the subject that is one thing but for us to make the decision on how others should live their lives is a boundary violation.