I'm not asking if I'm lesbian. I'm asking what will happen to me?

Question

--What will happen when I come out?
--What will small town Kansas think?
--My sister said I am too young to know what I want. I'm 15. Am I?
--Will I be able to have a girlfriend like an average girl has a boyfriend?
--Does it matter that I've already had sex 5 times with 2 different guys?
--What about family? I can't come out to everyone, but they will find out eventually. My grandma will die when she finds out. What should I do about that?
--What about sexual consent laws for lesbians in Kansas?
I am looking this up as the question ticks on, anyway, so thank you for answering, NICELY. Please.

Also, about the sex with the guys. It was horribly painful. That could be due to inexperience. But I felt that I just dated them because it was what you were supposed to do. One, was a "boyfriend" and one was a one night stand. Horrible.

"you will turn into a lickalottapus!!!"

from txboy34. That's hella funny. lolz.

Answer 1

I think you are asking very nice questions and you are being respectful and helpful.
This is a great start - better than most people. I urge you not to make things worse for yourself by listening to the idiotic answrs some people may give you.

If you come out you will have a harder life than most people that is a fact- sad but true.

It depends being in a small town- you do have to worry abotu your safety. You may not feel safe to do it too everyone.

Are you alone- can you find other people who are gay cause guess what i know you cant be alone- there are probably other people you just dont know it, or they are too scared so be careful.

You are making a great step by being TRUTHFUL with yourself- that is great and at such a young age like yourself.. You sound like a strong person.

You have to be strong when you do come out because there will always be stupid people who tell you you are not normal, when you know you are you know why- because you are asking good, valid questions. Just remember you deciding to sit down and write out these questions when times get tough. You know who you are and are proud of it.

If your sister says that well at least she doesnt hate you for it. She says that cause she loves you. So, since SHE for one is an udnerstading person, try to explain even though you wanna come out, and you are strong you cant do it on your own- and how it would really help if she tried to help. If you two could talk it would make you two stronger and closer.

Hey - I say you are brave and such a good person at 15 -. COme on - dont call yourself stupid. WHy would you make something like this up....right? So - NO!! you are not too young- you just know.

It doesnt matter how many times youve had sex with guys- that is normal- they way the world works you didnt choose to be you you are when your a baby so only now you had to tell youself you are different at 15. Its ok, one day you will find other people to explain and make you see how lucky and brave you really are- you might have t wait because its too bad you live in a small town like you do. Just dont giveu.

See- you already said you cant come out to everyone so obvioulsy youunderstand why and how that works. With your grandma- it is hard to change peoples views who are older- and no point so maybe just dont- take it easy like if ever you have a girlfriend- say its your friend- chances are she wont even realize why you spend so much time together.

Laws? What do you mean? Marriage? Well there is nothing against them. If there is, then that place is like in the 18th century and times have changed- that is sad. BUT if they are laws bad ones- do BE CAREFUL.

Keep it up look on the internet- go to the nearest gay bar- or group. LOOK IT UP. you will find something. thats all that matters. BE strong. everyone needs someone.

Just remember you are really open minded you have great chances to be a great stong leader cause you asked such good questions. Dont ever let anyone push you dont. You know who you are . Belive in yourself., Soon youll findmany people who do to.

One more thing you HAVE to go to butch-femme.com

it is the site community people all over the world who are LGBT community (lesbian, gay....) you will feel like a second home another family- people just like yourself who one day felt alone. Youll thank me one day.;:)


Good luck keep it up.

Answer 2

I knew that I was gay by the age of 14 so you arenot too young to know.

When you come out, prepare yourself for negative reactions from ppl you have known a long time. A lot of ppl will be fine with it but every once in awhile you get a negative reaction. Just let those ppl go because they have issues.

Having a gf depends on your situation. You are still underage.

No, your sexual experiences does not matter. I had sex with boys at age 14 because that was what the norm was and was what my friends were doing.

I have a rule about family. Dont come out to family until they come out and ask you. That means they have thought about it and are mentally ready to handle the answer that at that point, they already know.

Sexual consent laws are the same.. meaning someone older could get into trouble because you are underage.

Good luck.

Answer 3

-A lot of things can happens when you come out. Some good. Some bad. Always prepare for the worst.
-Your small Kansas town reaction could possibly be mixed. Some will like it, some will hate it. Prepare yourself for being harrased but remember to stay strong, safe, and don't travel alone.
-15 may be too young to come out if you do not have a place to stay if your parents kick you out.
-I'm not going to lie, being a lesbian and finding as many girlfriends as girls find boyfriends in a small Kansas town may be like finding a needle in a haystack. Try to find or create some kind of GLBT club, and you may find a girlfriend or at least people who can relate to being gay.
-If you had sex 5 times with 2 guys and did not like it at all, that is good because then you are probably really a lesbian, but only time will tell.
-Don't come out to your whole family at once, especially if they feel negatively about gays. As for grandma, explain to hurt that you're not doing it to hurt her, but if she loves you and wants you in her life, she'll except you.
-The age of consent for homosexuality doesn't seem to exist because it's either forbidden or the laws for same sex consent is invalidated. I suggest you do your own research on this.
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Answer 4

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Answer 5

i just want you to know that im in the exact same boat. im 16 and i am 95%positive that i am gay, but i have no way of knowing what will happen to me when i come out. i live in a city in iowa so not a whole lot goes on here. let me know if you get any good answers that both of us could use. feel free to email me at [e-mail]

Answer 6

Watch out for the Westboro baptist church. As for your family just remind them that you're the same person you were before they knew you were gay. I think you need to come out. I mean its totally unhealthy to hide such a big part of who you are.

Answer 7

you sound so nicely now lets think about Jesus Christ and think of Father God what would they think when we get too the purely gates of heaven will ST Peter let us in for spreading the world of God to every one? then peter will ask you' what did you do for Jesus?
God bless all in Jesus name Amen.

Answer 8

1- depends on hoe you tell
2- your going to get bad looks and called fag
3- only you know, but i was 15 and i knew im gay
4- yes
5- i depends. veryies from family to family
thats all i know sorry if i dont help

Answer 9

you should do it and don't worry what anyone else thinks

Answer 10

you will turn into a lickalottapus!!!