My boyfriend and i been dating a year and a half and we talk about the future together but these last couple of weeks i have to move into my own place and he isn't ready to move with me which is fine but with all that's going on we've been arguing and bickering a lot about nothing and on top of me moving w/o him we both work a lot and usually opposite shifts so we see each other in spurts. i was wondering if we are starting to grow apart b/c we're doing separate things and not being with each other as much as we used to. Also he doesn't call as much as he used when he says he will i feel blown off is our relationship fading or is this something that we can move through?
2006-08-06 16:26:39 · 3 answers · asked by Pumpkin Pie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's something that you can get through if you really want to. It may be that you are moving in different directions but if you both love each other you that will bring you together.
2006-08-06 16:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime people do move apart, and there's nothing you can do about it, and anything you try to do isn't healthy. However, relationships do get to a point where all the sparks fade a bit. This is usually the point that people start worrying if the relationship is failing. It's tough to not be able to see each other because of different scheduals and shifts, but what you should do is sit down and talk about what you want you think is happening to the relationship and what you want to do about it. You should also make sure at the beginning that neither of you is going to jump down the other's throat about things you're unhappy with, or if one of you wants to end it and the other doesn't. This is also the time to go over the arguments you've been having and talk openly with each other about it.
If it ends, make sure it ends on a good note, or at least not one of crying and begging to get back together. This way, it won't be akward if you see him in the supermarket, and you'll both be much happier. Although, if it continues, make sure you sit down with each other every once in a while and talk about the relationship and how you feel about it.
On another note, you both could be really stressed out and so arguments erupt because of the stress. If you're stressed and having an argument, it brings on more stress, and becomes a vicious cycle.
Good luck.
2006-08-06 23:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by AniMajor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry cant help u , ur question was really long didnt feel like readin it, HAHa thanks for the points, BUT if u relly want an answer dump him !! i dunno if that fits w/ ur answer but guys are jerks
2006-08-06 23:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋