My husbands brother said it himself "he looks at her and protects her like he does me." I am starting to feel more like a sibling and less like a wife. He asks me to call when i get to my parents house if he isn't going. which makes me feel like a child. He makes me feel guilty if I go over there without him. I am always wrong no matter what the situation. He hates all my friends, so i never get to see them unless i am by myself which rarely happens, because apparently it isn't safe for me to drive alone. This was ok when my parents did these things, but my husband?He treats one of my brothers and his wife like garbage, he won't even hold their daughter which is his neice. He has even cussed my sister in law and brother out! He is very rude to people he doesn't like. Instead of staying in the room and socializing, he goes and plays xbox, leaving me in the room embarrased because he was so rude. He also talks more to his mom and my mom than he does to me. What do i do? Please help!
2006-08-06 16:22:38 · 8 answers · asked by ly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you have yourself a loser. Just be glad you don't have kids... now stop and think while you read my answer..
Theres a difference between being in love and putting up with B***** and not being in love putting up with B*****. Are you in love with him?
If you are... the situations are just begining to show true colors. I assume you haven't been married too long and are just at the "comfortable" stage. He no longer sees you as his "object of affection", and in how twisted things are going for you he sees you as a sister. You need to step up and sexually prove to him that you are not a little innocent girl, you are his wife and his temptress. If you can't encounter him sexually and dominate the way hes treating you, this little "boy gamer" will find himself divorced. Marry the man today, and change him tommorow, and if it doesn't work thereafter bid him farewell.
If you are out of love or questioning it there is simply too much drama. You need to communicate with him and try the above approach first if you are questioning it. If you are falling out of love, you just listed all the reasons. Get things to change or leave.
2006-08-06 16:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by Poestalker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is the first born he has the need to overprotect you but it is not an excuse for his rude behavior. He might suffer from anti-social behavior and needs therapy. He could have low self-esteem which is why he tries to control you every action. Tell him how you feel and suggest marriage counseling or the marriage will lead to divorce. His problems with his brother might stem from early childhood experiences---needs therapy for this. Feel guilty only if you are doing something wrong if not do not allow him to control you because you need him to be your husband, friend, and lover. Next time people stop over lock the door to the room with the xbox. He sounds that he is still a child with a loving wife and he needs to grow-up.
2006-08-06 16:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by Lifeline 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is trying to get you in a situation where you are isolated from the rest of your family and friends. You need to tell him that you are an adult and he needs to treat you as such - if he doesn't, leave him. There are a lot of potential problems (such as him making you check in all the time, not driving by yourself, disrepecting your brother and not letting you see your friends) in this relationship that could lead to abuse. Start doing what YOU want to do - you are an adult. If he can't handle it - leave. There are so many other men out there that would treat you like GOLD.
2006-08-06 17:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by lonely_girl3_98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot of complaints about him. If this is so, then do not have kids with him. Kids tend to copy behaviors of parents.
I would seriously ask him to get counseling, or at least try to change or be nicer. If not, get a divorce you don't want to be complaining the same things about him 6 years from now do you?
2006-08-06 17:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by TiredofIdiots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's carried out contained in the darkish, continuously contains gentle, highly by ability of them being sisters. i comprehend you won't be able to be extreme. You sound like a actual jerk, like truly a kind of adult adult males that fall out of love with their different halves because they placed on little weight. Her sister is unquestionably only as incorrect as you. Dang guy, her sister. in case you had to cheat, why her family participants, think ofyou've got had all and sundry else. you incredibly wanted to harm her.
2016-11-23 13:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me he is controlling every thing you do...if that's not what you want...you need to let him know your not putting up with it. Controlling is a RED FLAG!!! and here's a quote..."Best predictor of future behavior is past behavior"
2006-08-06 16:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by livinNlovin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F*** his younger brother, if applicable. Have you ever heard the term "Control thru isolation" b4.
2006-08-06 16:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by ricosuarve 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out while you can... you obviously want to be a wife, not a sister.
2006-08-06 16:36:43 · answer #8 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋