2006-08-06 16:17:57 · 6 answers · asked by f21leb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think if you really love the guy you met on chat you should go for it if you are unhappy in your relationship you are currently in. However, it may be hard for the kids...make sure the kids meet this new gentleman before anything serious comes of this...their opinion counts. Plus make sure you meet this person in real life before you jump to anything. Good luck!
2006-08-06 16:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couple of questions. How long has she known this man from the chat room? Does she really know the man from the chat room? Has he been around her kids? Do you think he's is telling her things she wants to hear because "maybe" her marriage is falling apart? Is her marriage falling apart because she's often in the chat room with this guy? Has she met him? Has she visited him at his home? Has this young lady and online guy ever been on a few dates? Has she met his family? Really, what does she know about this guy? Not sure if this 22 year old person is you or a friend because you didn't say in your post, but ask this person what is she missing in her marriage that want her to marry someone she met online so soon. Now I am not saying that an individual can't find love online but she is in a situation where she is still legally married, has children and wants to rush into a marriage so soon. I feel this young lady needs to really think what she is getting herself in before she makes the wrong move and end up 23 or 24 years old divorce for the 2nd time.
2006-08-06 23:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First wake up and realize you have 2 kids....they are first...not some guy.
Second its divorce not devorce. And to want out of one and into another marriage this fast shows major self esteem issues on your behalf not to mention many other issues.
Then add in the fact you want to get with a guy from a "chat"....turn off the computer, cancel the AOL subscription and come back to real life.
Do as you wish but I can say if you just up and leave the father for some "dude" from a chat....when you are about 30 your kids will hate you, your life will be miserable and you will be divorced again.
Being a man.....no man wants a twice divorced female....shows that she has issues or is mental.
2006-08-06 23:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a big step especially since the guy on the Internet tends to be a bit creative with the email. What if the guy is a molester? There is a story on the news of this lady that married this guy and after one month she found out that the guy was molesting the woman's child for the whole month. A brother in-law did this---he got the neighbor's wife interested in him and soon they were gone to Florida, she took her child, the husband was a hard working guy and provided just about everything she needed, the guy (my in-law) stayed for about three weeks and soon he found someone else and got her pg the woman with the child was left in Florida alone with no one to help her because they were just there without friends. So know the person and meet him in a public situation, if the marriage is over well let it be over if marriage counseling does not work, and mainly think about the children, guys will have sex with just about any woman that is willing to give it away but they do not want a real commitment.
2006-08-06 23:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by Lifeline 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about what you're doing before you just jump into a new relationship ...You met him in the chat room and you have children if you want a divorce that's one thing but subjecting your kids to a new guy that;s something on a whole other level First get yourself established cause all the time the grass may not be greener on the other side get to really know the guy I suggest in 3yrs you know if you want to jump back into marriage again you are still young ....but good luck in whatever decision you make...
2006-08-06 23:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by classy chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it.
How can you leave your marriage and upset the lives of your children to chase a fantasy?
Does you husband know about your new love interest; or are you going to blind-side him? He is the one you should be discussing this with.
I just went back and read your other questions...if I understand correctly, YOU are the man in this situation. You are 43 and married carrying on with a 22 year old young woman who is contemplating leaving her marriage for you????
Groan......this makes me sick.
How could you lead on someone so young and immature, when you have NOTHING to offer her as you are still married??!!
I feel sorry for your wife an the young woman.
2006-08-06 23:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋