Im tired of being scared... need help with eating problems... mature advise please.?

Question

Im sick and tired of. Im sick of stepping on the scale 5 times a day and feeling disgusted if Ive gained weight. I have a lot of pressure on my shoulders to exceed in life in everything I do and lately I havent been eating that much. And when I go to bed at night and have only eaten a yogurt or something of the sort I feel a sort of accomplishment that I did something right. I am an extreme over-achiever and this is just one more thing I obsess over. I went on a modeling interview at an agency 2 weeks ago and they said I would be perfect if I lost 10 pounds. I am 5'8 and currently 115. I know its horrible, but I want it so bad but I think I am going to hurt my body. Please someone help me, I dont think im strong enough to talk to anyone I know about this. I think talking about it on here can be a step in getting over this problem, so any help would be appreciated.

For anyone who wants to know I am 17

Answer 1

Hun, ask your self, which is more important, modeling, or your health?
you will be surprised to know that most men do not like a woman that is skin and bones. a healthy woman is much more attractive.
and you'll feel better too! if your not eating enough, your body is not getting the nutrients it needs and all your organs will suffer from it! even your brain! you will suffer from depression, and other mental as well as physical problems as well, and it sounds like from your obsession, you already are a little.
beauty, true beauty comes from the inside, and will shine out! I am sure that you are beautiful, but you are not letting your self think that you are due to a few vanity pounds. that's nothing, that's not whats important in life. your driving yourself crazy and eventually going to make yourself sick. please just accept who you are, the way that you are. and hey, if they turn you down, so what, I am sure that they are not the only modeling agency around. if its something that you really want, you can not starve yourself or make yourself sick over it, a reputable company will not want sickly girls. take care of YOU first. and don't stress yourself over this. beauty is not all on the outside Hun. find your inner beauty. that's what matters most.
hope this helps you. :)

Answer 2

Well, models are forced to be hideously thin. I think you are already to thin. It sort of depends on bone structure though. I'm not even 5'2 and at one point I weighed about 110 and people said I was too thin. If you really think that food or lack there of is con trolling you or you feel food is the only thing in your life you can controll I'd say you have an eating disorder. If I only ate one yogurt in 24 hours I'd keel over from hunger. You really need to do some research on health eating habits. Do not ever eat under 1000 calories in 24 hours. You are robbing your body of the things it needs. You will also slow you metabolism and feel tired all the time. Do some research and good luck.

Answer 3

You are already underweight, and losing 10 more pounds will only make it worse. If you haven't already checked yourself out on the Body Mass Index charts, just put BMI into a search engine and see for yourself.
You are becoming anorexic. This is most common among girls who are perfectionists and high achievers, and it sounds as if you are in that category. When much of life seems so beyond our control, sometimes the ability to control our food intake seems to be an accomplishment. But you can really, really hurt your body, and also your psychological well-being, by continuing on this path. You can effect your fertility, making it more difficult to have a baby at some point in the future. And depriving yourself of food effects your entire body chemistry, to the extent that woman have died because chemical imbalances from an inadequate diet can cause heart failure.
You didn't say how old you are, but I am guessing that you are in your teens or early 20s. If you still live with your parents, chances are that they have noticed how thin you are, and how stressed out you are. If you can't confide in them, can you make a doctor's appointment and ask the doctor for help? If you are in school, see if a trusted teacher or counselor can give you some support in getting the assistance that you need. Is there someone - an aunt, a neighbor, a friend of the family - that you can trust to talk to? Please find someone.
My daughter is a little like you. She is an overachiever and thinks she needs to be the best at everything she does. I took her for counselling, and it really helped her. It's still hard for her to be less than perfect, but she is coming to understand that her family and friends love her as the human being she is, and none of us are ever going to be perfect, because life is imperfect.
Please talk to someone. I really get the sense that you are a young woman with a lot of strengths and talents, and a lot to offer. None of us can go alone in this life, and there are surely people in your life who will be glad to support you. Please ask them. Take care!

Answer 4

Five foot eight and 115 is too thin. If you weighed 145 you would be a lot sexier. Your boobs would get bigger and your hips would be curvier. Guys go for the hourglass figure and any guy who says he doesn't is lying. So tomorrow promise me you will go to McDonald's and eat a Big Mac and drink a milkshake and stop being such a perfectionist. Please.

Wanna trade bodies with me. Even though I'm a guy, I would love to have your figure. I'm 5 foot eight and 210. Disgusting. Why don't you tell me how I should lose weight instead of the other way around.

Answer 5

ok. first off, loose the scale. our bodies vary between 4 pounds every day. if you step on the scale during the night time it will be different to what it was in the morning because of the food that you have put into yourself. so that is normal.

secondly, i think you are going to hurt your body too. starving yourslef isnt the right way to go. if you really want this job i think you should choose a different route other than starvation.

but, if you really care about your body and your health i think you should really sit down and think if this is the job for you. you even said yourself its horrible that you are 5'8 and 115 pounds. you need to eat and be active and healthy. you will lose energy and you will be hurting yourslef if you keep going like this.

Answer 6

I would say the question here is, " Are you Happy with who you are? "
Sadly, today's society has forced the notion that being overly thin is the way to look. Modeling agencies, magazines, TV, and Movies force the issue that to be popular and for the world to accept you, you have to be rail thin. But to achieve this, what do you gain? Emotional instability...Gastro-Intestinal Problems...Gynological fluxuations...All because you are thriving on what others think of you.

Be happy with who you are and what you have achieved. Until you can accept and love who you are, you cannot go any further.

I give you kudos for taking the step and reaching out for help. It shows you know and feel something is not right. It is a step. That takes courage.

Here is something that might help: Take time...write down on a piece a paper a list. One side is ( What I like About Myself )
Other Side ( What I DO NOT Like about Myself )

Take your time. When you finish. Add up each side. Praise yourself for what you like. FOr what you do not like...take one and write down how you might change that and work on it.

Good Luck and may strength and courage be on your side....

Answer 7

I think that you are right and that is a very dangerously low weight. You know that this can end up hurting you, don't put vanity infront of your health. Besides, I think that at 115 pounds you could find modeling jobs anyways. Go somewhere else, and get another job in the mean time so that you are not pressured to take the first thing that comes along that wants you to put your health at risk.

Answer 8

The following link talks a little about the different eating disorders and all the way down at the bottom are a couple of hotlines you could call.
http://www.mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/publications/allpubs/KEN98-0047/

This one offers help free of charge. The hotline isn't 24 hours, though. The reason I am sending this one is it sounds a lot like you have Anorexia.
http://www.anad.org/site/anadweb/

It is good that you know something is not right.
Now, please, for your life's sake, seek help for this. Call one of the hotlines above and they should be able to either help you or get you in contact with someone who can help you.
It is hard to break a habit that has given us a zone of comfort.
But if you continue to malnourish your body, you could, indeed die.
I had a friend who had anorexia, and I have friends whose daughters had it.
It is difficult to overcome. It's like being addicted to not eating.
You may find some support here, but you really need to contact one of those hotlines and share with them what you've shared here.
Good luck!

Answer 9

This may sound frightening, but it sounds like you may be developing an eating disorder, probably anorexia. You need to talk to your doctor and a counselor IMMEDIATELY.
Please know that 115 is extremely thin for someone your height. I am only 5'5" and 130, and that is a perfect weight for me according to my doctor. http://www.cdc.gov/nccdphp/dnpa/bmi/ According to this body mass index calculator, you are underweight, and losing more weight is extremely dangerous for you. If you are underweight, your body will begin to shut down because it cannot get proper nutrients. Your hair may thin or fall out- which isn't pretty- your organs may malfunction, and you will probably lose your period, which damages your fertility. And if it goes too far, you could end up dead.
Please, please, please don't let those stick-skinny girls in the media make you think you're too fat. None of them are healthy. Ever notice that most models have super-straight, thin hair? It's because they're too underweight to grow thick, healthy hair. And they're not real anyway- their photos are completely airbrushed to a standard of beauty that is unrealistic, unachievable, and unhealthy.
It might be hard to seek counseling, but your life will get a lot worse if you don't. I wish the best to you, and I hope you get this thing under control. I'll say a prayer for you.

Answer 10

Eating disorders are a psychological issue that needs to be addressed and treated via a qualified mental health practitioner. You need to see a counselor for help immediately.There are also support groups where you can meet others with the same issue and be able to share with them. This disorder not only causes mental health issues...it causes health issues and can lead to death! Karen Carpenter of the Carpenters (1970's) was one of the first public figures to die from complications of Bulimia and Anorexia. Nothing is worth destroying your health over. I know for a fact that being 10 Lbs lighter is not going to make you feel better about yourself in the long run...its temporary...you'll be looking to lose another 10 lbs real soon. Find something that is constructive and good for you to get involved in...helping others, volunteering..etc