fight between step mom me and my dad and what it leed to.?

Question

my step mom and me had a huge fight that ended up lasting 2 days and my dad took her side...i decided not to go up anymore but havn't told him yet cause i havn't talked to him for the past month i have tried calling and left a message telling him to call back bcause i need to talk with him, just a couple days ago was my b-day and he didn't call do u think he didn't call because of the fight? wat do i do?

Answer 1

you are in a tough situation. your dad is not acting mature to call you on your birthday, and he should. how old are you? if you called him, and he's not calling you back, he is not being a proper parent. it seems your dad is holding on to the issues and the emotions of the fight you had with your step mom. he shouldn't have taken sides because it's not about that. he should have tried to facilitate the argument if he wanted everyone to stay amicable. would you feel comfortable to talk to the step mom about needing your dad to call you? maybe give that a try.

Answer 2

First no matter what happens between you and your step mom your dad loves you you are his child and nothing will ever change that. If you and his wife are fighting then that puts him in a tough spot of feeling like he has to choice between the two of you. You don't say what the fight was about but chances are your step mom was right or your dad wouldn't have sided with her. Keep calling until you get a hold of your dad as I know in our house messages get erased and not written down so they never get passed on to the one they were meant for. Talk to your dad and explain to him that you are considering not going back to visit and work with him to come to a compromise. I am sure you and your step-mom both love your dad and want him to be happy and guess what you don't have to like her (I hated my step-mom) just show her respect when you are around her. Don't end visits with your dad over it as you only have one dad and that relationship is special. I am sure as far as forgetting your b-day it wasn't because he is mad at you but more likely with everything going on he forgot (my dad remembered mine about every three years). When you talk to your dad don't start out with anything negative instead tell him that you love him and want to see him but right now you can't see eye to eye with his wife and could you two make other arrangements to spend time alone together. Good Luck.

Answer 3

First how old are u?

If your an adult and capable of making ur own choices.. then u very well could of really ticked him off and he could be trying to teach u a lesson..

He is right in taking the side of his "WIFE" it doesnt sound right, but it is.. a husband and wife should always be a united front, to anyone including children.. does it mean he doesnt love u.. NO.. he loves u with all his heart ur his daughter, but does it mean he's not going to allow u to disrespect your step mother.. "YES".. Im not a fool to this scenerio.. im the daughter of a WONDERFUL father, im a step daughter, im a mother, and a step mother.. I use to hate my step mother thought she was the meaniest woman in the world ,and i was so angry because my father always took her side.. guess what, THEY WERE BOTH RIGHT.. she was my step mother and i had to respect her rules.. and her rule were fair.. and she wouldnt put up with me trying to disrespect her or my father.. she was right again.. today.. I call her my MOM, no step.. to me she is my mom because she's always been there for me, good and bad she never stopped loving me.. shes just as much of my mom as my biological mom.. Someone once told me, "u marry ur spouse, u have kids, the kids grow up, they go on eventually with their own husbands and wives, and who do u have left.. ur spouse .." U need to find away to try harder to get along with ur step mother, u dont have to like her, but u have to respect her as your fathers wife.. and he does need to stand by her , thats his job.. its even in the BIBLE.. that no other human is to come before your spouse not even your children .. UNLESS ur child is in life or death danger..for example.. theres no doubt in my mind if ur dad was in a boat, u and ur step mom are drowning and he could only save one.. he'd definately save u.. he loves u more, but he has to do what is right by her.. she will never have his heart like u do.. and this is something that u wont understand untill u urself are married and have children.. Now if ur a minor still ..u dont have a choice, untill u are 18 he can force u to go see him on his visitations.. and he's probably really hurt at the fact that u have chosen not to speak to him.. but he should of atleast called or sent u something for your birthday.. i dont agree with that part.. my best advice to u , is to write both ur step mother and dad a letter and even if u dont think u were wrong, just for this time, eat ur pride, and appologize, and explain that u do want to try and make things better with the both of them...Trust me, ur dad doesnt like being in the middle.. he may even totally agree with u.. but as her husband his job is to stand by her side.. and hopefully if he does agree with u.. he'll talk to her and get her to see his way on things which would be ur way...to see if he can get her to chill out..

But i think u need to be the bigger person and realize that fighting with ur step mother, isnt worth losing your father for..and i say that not from his side, but by u punishing him, for you and her fighting, thats not cool..

I hope u swallow ur pride on this one.. life is so much happier, when u try and get along with your family even when u have opposing feelings about something..

Answer 4

call anying way