how would you feel if your girlfriend wanted to stop having sex with you and wait till she was married?
Ive been with my man for 9 months and we talked about marriage he says he really wants to marry me, but i continue to have sex with him. i didnt lose my virginity with him. But you know the old saying "why buy the cow , if you already get the milk for free"
I spoke to him about this and he said its ok, but what else can he say?
How do you think he will feel emotionally
He says hes going to ask me, but if he really loves me he wouldnt care if we waited till we are married
2006-08-06 16:07:38 · 9 answers · asked by lovesugarkisses 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeh well if i keep giving him sex whats he reason to marry me if hes getting everything without a commitment
2006-08-06 16:12:24 · update #1
i understand what you people mean , maybe i should limit sex with him maybe once a week instead every time we see eachother
2006-08-06 16:27:20 · update #2
A marriage founded only on sex will likely be shortlived, doomed and a big mistake. Take care of yourself.
2006-08-06 16:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by BOBBY 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It really wouldn't make a difference. You have been together for 9 months, do you really think it would make anything feel different at all. Think of it scientifically, if you want it to feel "magical... or in other words hotter" you need to stop having sex for at least 6 months for your vagina to tighten...
Your sex drive, intimacy and sexiness will all die out when the majority do during marriage. Stopping the intercourse now will not delay any of this.
I imagine you are worried of losing that "attraction" and "flirtation". Well if you are old enough to get married, you are old enough to be an adult. That is what marriage is about, learning to live with eachother... and pray you can take care of eachother.
If you really think that not having sex will help your future marriage in anyway, your already messing it up.
2006-08-06 16:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by Poestalker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really want to reduce yourself to "a cow", and you really want to reduce your relationship to a barter of "sex for" whatever?
You need to rethink quite a bit... what is sex to you?
If you're of the mind that sex is something you give and he gets, then you're hardly acting as his equal.
And if you stop having sex with him... what are you going to do about you sex desires... or do you not have sex desires of your own?
Think deeply about what your question is saying about your life.
2006-08-06 16:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't have a child out-of-wedlock. You'll both regret it forever.
There are FIVE love languages and sex is only one! Check out the other FOUR before you get married.
2006-08-06 16:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So to get married you want to use sex as a weapon? Nice. You are such a catch...
2006-08-06 16:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by Marshal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my fiance is waiting till marraige
2006-08-06 16:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by newpastorofgod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like being trapped into marrage in my opion?
2006-08-06 17:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are already a damaged good, so why act all innocent?
2006-08-06 16:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by Fowl Language 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are wright but whats the hurry!!
2006-08-06 16:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋