My father and his side of the family recently found out that I'm a lesbian. I told a couple of cousins, and one who has a big mouth told her mother( my father's sister), and another aunt, my grandmother, and my father. It didn't matter to me that they found out because I am not ashamed and I was going to tell everyone anyway. Also, I heard that neither one of them have a problem with it and already knew. I was just wondering why my father, aunts, and grandma have not mentioned to me that they know and are okay with it. They haven't even slightly brought up the subject to me. What do you think?
2006-08-06 15:37:33 · 18 answers · asked by indrep33 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First of all, I never said I din't tell my parents. My mother was the first person to know. But I rarely ever see my father, and it was my first time seeing he since realizing I wasgay, and my cousins told him before I could.
2006-08-06 15:48:25 · update #1
To Randy D., Joel M., and anti-gay power, ooohhh your comments reallllly hurt, I'm going to go cry-NOT! Tell your mothers to eat me.
2006-08-06 15:53:56 · update #2
To all you people who have negative things to say ,First off, I have a life and not a lifestyle. Secondly, just because I'm a lesbian doesn't mean I can't and won't have kids because I will, and I will be 10x the parents you guys are. Thirdly, I glad neither one of you are my parents because if you were I would have killed myself at birth.
2006-08-07 12:27:33 · update #3
Maybe by not saying anything means they are okay with it. They probably already knew before you did. And they probably don't think being gay is a big deal. So, if they're still loving you and supporting you regardless, then what does it matter if they bring it up? Being gay is only a part of who you are, it's not your entire identity.
2006-08-06 15:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by hpotter4ever2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm... what father is comfortable talking to his daughter about sex? Least of all bringing up the subject himself!
I think your father is acting like a normal dad. He just doesn't want to talk about it, but, you know, it's wonderful that he's accepting of you.
Still, you can't have the elephant in the room forever. What to do? YOU bring it up. "Hey, I hear Cousin Susie spilled the beans." And while you're at it, let that wonderful man know how much you love him and how much you appreciate his acceptance.
Good luck and God bless you!
2006-08-06 22:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by B D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have a tendency to avoid conversations that they know are going to be unpleasant. I’m sure he still loves you, however he would not have wanted this lifestyle for you and is probably disappointed because he was looking forward to having a son-in-law and a couple of grand children in his life.
2006-08-07 17:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by weaver2sl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its hard for parents to admit that there child is gay. Dont forget you are daddy's little girl and even though he knows about your sexual preferance he wont come out and say it. Moms are most likely to speak up but fathers are more low key. My dad knows that I am gay and has known for a while but wont really say it out loud. Its always "How is Nici" or "How's your friend" even though he knows that I live with her and she is my gf. But be happy that your family is okay with it and enjoy that! Not all parents are as excepting!
2006-08-06 23:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by JJSassy99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents have their ways of not minding the reality. Perhaps your father is still in the denial stage. Thinking that sooner, you'll realize that you're not really gay. And maybe, that's his way of really accepting the truth. You know, truth hurts and when it does, it's hard to really accept it.
peace y'all
2006-08-07 01:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jh3sS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are waiting out of respect for you. Maybe they feel that you have the right to talk to them, and let them know. They are giving you space and privacy. Actually, I think it's kind of cool that they respect you enough to hear it from you, and not someone else. I suggest setting up a time to see your dad, and talk to him in person. Maybe he feels like he would be nosing in, if he just asked you himself. Good luck!
2006-08-06 22:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was your dad, I'd be too ashamed of you and too nauseated with your choice of lifestyles that I would walk to all ends of the earth to avoid talking to you about it. It certainly wouldn't be a subject worth much energy or thought. God Bless you.
2006-08-06 22:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because they are ashamed that you are disgusting, and choose to live an alternative lifestyle, they are wondering what they did wrong in raising you. now remember i'm sure they still love you , they probably just don't understand what happened to you, but they did nothing wrong you have just fallen victim to todays disgusting acceptance and wayward lifestyles
2006-08-06 22:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by Joel M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think too many parents are wild about talking or even thinking about their kids' sexuality. Especially if like you say, you dad doesn't see you that often, he probably prefers not to think of his little girl as a sexual being. I think that if you wanted to talk about it, you'd have to bring it up yourself.
2006-08-07 00:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by Will 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps they have not mentioned it to you because you have not mentioned it to them. They don't want to confront you based hearsay - the truth should come from you. I'm sure you will find that the dialogue will soon begin. . .
2006-08-06 23:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋