why is my boyfriend so jealous?

Question

me and my man been together for 11 months now.he watch my every move and he gets mad at my friends he don't want me going out and he catches a attitude all the time he knows i love him.i never cheated on him and i tell him all the time i love him and he says it to me to before or after i say it to him so if he loves me why is he so jealous of me having friends or chatting on my pc or going outside i'm having his first child this is our 2nd time tring we had a miscarriage because of stress and all but why is he so jealous he accused me of cheating on him all the time i'm a stay at home mom to 3 kids and his on the way why is he making my life like this i wonna be with him and he knows he's the best thing that ever happened to me

should i stay? my mom says jealousy turns into something else

Answer 1

he's been in some shady relationships to believe all women are cheaters. he shouldn't judge you by his past relationships. do what you gotta do 2 make yourself happy.

Answer 2

No one can tell you what to do but I will tell you jealousy is a disease and before you know it he will be hitting you. He really isn't the best thing that has come into your life if you already lost a child with all the stress he has put you through. If a man accuses you of cheating it's because he does and I would really listen and take some advice from your mom.

Answer 3

Odds are it has nothing to do with self-confidence or self-esteem. If he was unconfident he wouldn't confront you with his suspicions. It's possible this will turn into an abusive relationship but there's no real evidence of that unless he's abusive to you in any way now. Abuse isn't magic, it doesn't pop into existence, it's a pattern of increasingly disrespectful actions and it's approach is clear if you're not blind. If you have male friends or if you're chatting with men online he has more than enough reason to be suspicious but what he's lacking is Trust. It doesn't matter if he has reason to be jealous or not or even really what's wrong with him, he's lost his trust in you. Your relationship is crippled and unlikely to mend at best it will continue just like it's going today but likely it will get worse before comes back to being the same. Regardless of how you both feel about one another or what your relationship has survived you can do better than him.

Answer 4

You have 3 kids and 1 on the way. Why do you feel the need to be a social butterfly? You should be spending time with him in the evenings. Miscarriages don't happen because of stress... that's BS from TV shows. You need to just settle down and accept that you are a full time Mom. Try to focus on your family and enjoy being with them. No wonder he feels jealous. You are showing you resent having to be home.

Parents with little kids shouldn't be out partying all the time.

Answer 5

I got the right answer for you honey. I'm a 28 yr old married lady with 1 kid and had dated a while before I married. Let me say this...if he's accusing you - he's doing it. He's trying to get the pressure off of himself./ Get rid of the loser. Life is too short to be stressing over this. 11 mos is a good while to know someone. Don't let it go anylonger and have to deal with this the rest of your life. Girl, get a man with some self confidence and who isn't so jealous.

Answer 6

From your decsription, I believe tt yr bf lacks confidence in either yours relationship or himself. he is afraid tt one day u will leave him for somebody else, tt's the main reason he try to control all yr movement.
If he can't control his jealousy, it could turned out to be something more distraous liked hatred or even to the extend of hurting others.
Did u tell yr bf on how u feel coz of his jealousy? Maybe u shld have a chat with him to find out why is he so jealous and tried to controlled u. By finding out the root cause, I think both of u can worked together to solved the problem.

Answer 7

are you sure you love him or is it just lust and you want some one in your life to help you raise 4 kids I think you need to get some counseling for co-depend and get on with your life I think this guy is out with some one Else too and that is why he thinks you are CZ he is doing it and there for justifying his own stuff but if you are not sure see if you can have a friend you trust or relative fallow him to see if he is cheating or call that show how tries to catch cheaters for you and then you will know but if he is not cheating and he is just insecure then ask him if (he really loves you to get some-consulting) or he don't really love you I know that my ex was really cheating on me I was not dumb and I accused him and he denied it but the girl confessed to me and I was faithful to him but very insecure especially after that and he would not let me go any where or have a job or friends and he did get abusive so i left him and he is now in jail just be very care full you can not be a punching bag!!!!

from experience!!!!

Answer 8

your bf sounds so controlling. i would say get out while you can. i though i would stay with my ex for my childs sake bad mistake cuz one day when i tried to go home to see my mom for my b-day he beat me so bad that i lost my child. they start out just being jealous then move up to a little slap but then say i'm sorry and give you presents and swear they will never do it again and then from there they are hurting you cuz you didn't fold the laundry right or some stupid reason and they don't care if you are carrying their child or not or even if they are gonna hurt the baby at all. just plz leave him well you can

Answer 9

Listen to mom. He is jealous because he is insecure or because he can't be trusted. Whatever the reason, you can't change or fix him. He will get worse. You have children that need to be taken care of and adding him to your life is only going to make it ten times worse. It will turn into violence and your children will be exposed to this. No. Get away from him, he should be thankful to have you and treat you well and since he can't do that and you allow him to accuse and berate you it is making your self esteem lower and making your children think that this is the way to treat women or , OK to be treated by men....I will pray for you.

Answer 10

it seems like you have yourself in a tricky situation. honestly girl men who are jealous like that end up being abusive. I am hoping that, that isn't already the case. Sometimes men r insecure especially when and if they are doing something wrong. If I were you girl that would not be the kind of relationship I would want to be in. He sounds a little to controlling. Be careful!

Answer 11

Your Mom is right, if he is that jealous and can and will cause you nothing but Grief, I could not live that way, and you should give this some serious Thought. Also, your Children will be affected by his Actions, so please listen to your Brain. You deserve better then how he treats you.