still thinking about the ex-boyfriend?

Question

i dont know y i still think about him but he's always in the back of my mind, i haven't even talked to him in years but i still have feelings for this guy. he was my first love and i hear that he asks about me too sometimes u think it's true that u will always love ur first love. i dont know why i think of him still i have a kid with my ex boyfriend and i dont even think of him no more like this.

Answer 1

You weren't able to have closure, and therefore are still looking through the open door. It's always nice and comfortable to reflect on the past, and "what might have been". But, where does that bring you now? I imagine to something like regret, remorse and sadness, at things not turning out the way you wanted. Perhaps you should start by forgiving. Forgive yourself, and him for the things that happened. Move on to acceptance. Accept that it is over, and that you both have moved on, and most likely, become different people than you once were. You could write a letter....one that you will not send. Let it flow, let it all out, say everything that you feel, and want to say. Seal it in an envelope, and discard it. Throw it away, burn it, whatever. Close the door, and move on. After doing that, give yourself some time to heal after this "cleansing". You may feel differently about him, and the past. If you still feel as strongly after wards, perhaps contact him, and ask him to meet you for coffee and dessert. Do not go in to full details, but simply say that you had been thinking of him, and hoped all was well. Prepare yourself fo r anything, as ANYTHING is possible. Above all, respect and take care of yourself.

Answer 2

1

Answer 3

I know it hard to let go of someone you care about , It come in time that we must let go that person, so we can life and be strong.

Answer 4

you two should get on the phone and start talking some...slowly progress in the talking and evidentally get to the full details bout how you two feel bout each other :)