I am moving away from my husband for a year. He wants to see other people while we are apart.?

Question

So my question is should I just look for another guy in Florida and make a life for myself there in Florida. I know that he is interested in someone else. I found out from a friend that he is talking to someone at his job. I know that as soon as I leave he will start seeing her. So I have been thinking about looking for someone down there. I hate to loose my marriage though so what should I do? My son has to go there for some therapy and it will last a year. I am scared of losing him but my son needs me more. That is why I am going.

Answer 1

Girl let me tell you from experience..If your husband is interested in someone else and you have proof of that then file for a divorce..You finding someone while you are in Florida isnt exactly the way to go about it..I commend you on caring for your son like that but honestly if a man cant be faithful to you while you are gone for this then sweetie you need to find someone that will..Get divorced first though..In God's eyes when we are married and messing around with someone else that is called Adultery...So save yourself and your son by divorcing him then once they are filed feel free to find you someone who will love you enough to never hurt you...God bless you

Answer 2

You are not being selfish at all. As a matter of fact, HE'S the one being selfish in this relationship. He is the husband and he has to be the man and take hold of his life instean of just letting it waste away and let you do all the work. He needs to learn him some English, get a job, and help support the both of you like the way it should be. If he's not willing to do that, he's only going to hold you down in life and I'm pretty sure you don't want that. And if he's gonna be holding you down, you don't need to be with him, and I know you don't want that either. But i think you're doing the right thing at this point becuase it's best to do something about it now before your financial problems get too out of hand. Let him be the man, grow some balls, and take hold of the outside world for his woman (you). While he's over ther in Korea he could really use his time over there to do some soul searching. And you could get back on track with urself and see what he does to make it work between the both of you. And if it doesnt turn out well, yes, you should divorce him. Be more choosy about who you say "I do" next time you meet someone. There are far other better fishes in the sea and there's gotta be someone out there you will love you and treat you better than this and treat you like a queen instead of a mindless slave.

Answer 3

First, think about it and do some investigating. Is his work insurance going to pay for the therapy? If so, put your kid first, and use his insurance until you run it dry, then when your kid is better, and you no longer need him, then you divorce his worthless ***.

Adultery is ALWAYS about moral weakness. If you are morally strong, you don't/won't commit adultery. That violates conventional wisdom, but conventional wisdom has given us a 50% divorce rate. Countries which use match-makers and the couple don't even meet before the wedding do a lot better than that.

That year all alone will be difficult, but don't let him suck you down to his level. You are better than this.

Answer 4

Your husband is an a$$hole if he thinks that you will just allow him to see other women. He obviously doesn't value your relationship. Maybe you should divorce him, take your son to FL for the therapy, and start a new life there. I can't believe your husband would be so insensitive that he'd ask you that question. What a butthead!

Answer 5

Well Lady if you can be away from your husband for ayear,you don'have a marriage anyways ,he should already be seeing someone else 1 a divorce atthorny,then anew woman ,there is no good excuse for that lenght of time.Be sure your in those therapy sessions.

Answer 6

Why isn't your husband going too? If you cannot trust him, and he wants to see other people then SCREW HIM!!! you deserve so much better than to be treated like that! Do not worry about another relationship right now. File for divorce get your affairs in order and then go take care of your boy. . . what a pig!

Answer 7

Hey relax why dont u take a break.spend some time with your son.Why dont u spend some time apart. It helps all the relationships to get back on track; u never know ur value until u leave and the other person will ask u back.why dont u do that.Maybe it will work. meanwhile get a makeover and then your husband will ask u back .

Answer 8

This is the most bizarre thing I have ever heard in my life! Your taking your son to Florida for medical reasons and all your husband can say is he wants to see other people while your gone?????????? Tell him to see whoever he wants to see and file for divorce!!!!! Why would you tolerate that from anyone!

Answer 9

Seriously!!??? Wow! Why would you still consider him your husband after he made a request like that?

You do what you need to do to make yourself happy. Sounds like your husband is going to, regardless of your decision.

I'm sorry that he's so heartless while you're going through this with your son. You have enough to deal with. He should be more supportive, not selfish and immature about it.

Answer 10

If he loved you he wouldn't put you in this situation. If he wants to see other people all he wants to do is test the water for FREE. Then if it doesn't pan out he simply pulls you back like nothing happend. That's BS He should be SUPPORTING you not telling you he wants to see other people. If he's as Big a Jerk as it sounds like you'd probably be better off without the creep.