I have a old friend that is not my friend anymore! We used to be really good friends, so she knos all my secrets! She has been telling all of her friends. What should i do to make her stop!
2006-08-06 14:44:52 · 18 answers · asked by Audree 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Reciprocate.
2006-08-06 14:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by Pappa Poopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try confronting her in away that's not aggressive but at the same time is not to passive either. I've been in the same situation before and I asked her to stop. I sat her down and explained to her that what she was doing was wrong. I had trusted her to keep a secret and she broke that trust. The best part is that you know her secrets as well and all you have to do is mention that you could do the same to her and she'll probably stop. Don't really do it of course, that would be too much like her and you probably don't want to be that way. If it doesn't work, try to tell people not to listen to her and keep insisting that she stop.
2006-08-06 21:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sereana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can certainly tell her how you feel, but you really can't MAKE her stop. Be the bigger person and don't start doing the same thing back. That would just cause the contest to escalate, and you'll both get hurt even worse. Try and talk to her, and ask her to stop. Don't threaten. If you threaten she'll have to prove she's not scared of you. If you honestly tell her that you're hurt and don't understand why she's doing it, if she continues she's going to look like the b itch.
2006-08-06 21:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is behaving like a bully.
The only way to deal with a bully is to confront one and be stronger.
A bully reacts three ways:
1. To a stronger person, a bully behaves.
2. To a weaker person, they act out at every opportunity.
3. To someone on the same level, they constantly test the limits.
If you have reason to cross her path, don't go out of your way, just look her in the eye and laugh at her, call her actions pathetic, and tell her you feel sorry for her. Don't be specific. Just walk away no matter what else is said.
And don't speak to her. Make it obvious she's a joke.
That's strength.
2006-08-06 21:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Stargatebabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her secrets. That way you on level ground. Seriously, if she knows it bothers you she will continue to do it. Don't sweat the small stuff. Life is too short to worry about the things that ignorant people do.
2006-08-06 21:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to stop?
Remember -- when it comes to telling secrets...who told her first?
Remind anyone that she is gossiping about you with that she will betray them as well.
2006-08-06 21:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by justaquestioner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell some of her secrets to some ppl with loose lips...
2006-08-06 21:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really a way, apart from crime, deal with those who heard,who are worth an explanation
2006-08-06 21:49:03 · answer #8 · answered by firechap20 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sux...tell her what u just said or tell ur friends not 2 listen to her.
2006-08-06 21:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by meowie711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick her a$$. and if she still talkin $hit tell fokes her secrets
2006-08-06 21:51:52 · answer #10 · answered by RICKEY H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋