i just got married need advice?

Question

and my mom is living with us it is really had to start a marreg and have my mom live with use at the sametime. my mom dosen't say anything or get betwween us about or relashipe but it is till hard what should i do so it dosen't bother me as much

Answer 1

take it day by day, and try to stay away from home a lot (walks in the park, etc)

Answer 2

Having a parent living with you is very difficult, no matter if you're newly married or married 20 years. So don't feel guilty about how you feel. This is different than when you have children, but we can always talk about that later. :)
And it's good your mother understands her place. That she doesn't try to interfere with your life. Still it doesn't make things any easier.
Are you having problems being intimate with your husband because of this? How is your husband dealing with this? Does he come home or does he go out with 'the boys'?

I don't know the details of why, but try to understand that your mother probably doesn't like living with you, any more than you like her being there. This is a hard adjustment by itself let alone trying to adjust to being newly married.

You've got an awful lot to deal with. Take each day as it comes. Try to make sure you have some alone time with your husband. Talk with your mother, if you can. Maybe she can help relieve your mind, too. You might need someone you trust to talk with, such as a counselor.

Good luck.

Answer 3

do whatever it takes to get mom out, only a few good things happen when mom lives with you, read the want ads get her a job so she can be independent, but if she is old or family tradition makes it hard you might have to dew it, but let her know the way that you feel ma by she will take the hint and move, she might try to make you feel bad, but tell her that now that she is gone you can give her some grand kids that she can come over and baby sit and make every one Happy

Answer 4

I feel for you. My mother in law lives with me and my husband. But not only is it us, but our 9 month old son. Things can be hard at times, but it is also a blessing to know you always have someone there to help you if you need it. When you start to feel pressured or upset, just get in the car and leave. Have a day to yourself. You don't have to even go far, go to the local mall and just make yourself happy and stress free. And then when you return home things are always better. :)

Answer 5

Believe you need some privacy. If you have siblings, maybe can arrange with them so she can rotate staying away while you can have some privacy. If not, then she can stay alone and visit her frequently. What is important here is not to let her feel neglected or unwanted. After all she is still your mom who brought you up. Best to have an open dicussion with all including her in and find a best solution.

Answer 6

The simple fact that your mother isthrer and she could be the niceest prson in the wolrl hinders your relationship with your new husband. Cut the cord and have your mom closeby. In the same house is a recipe for disaster

Answer 7

You are going to have the same probs when you get kids. You have to be creative. We used to hire the neighbor girl to come and sit the kids while we "ran a few errands." We had a detached garage off the alley, and many times the car never left the garage.

Answer 8

Look you need to just get use to it I mean marriage is work you have to learn to adapt to any situation togeather and also be lucky you have your mom there my mom had cancer and went through a year long battle and died in March she is not always gonna be here with you so be happy and live life with your mom

Answer 9

Try to think of it this way. Your mom gave you all her time to raise you and take care of you. She needs you now, so be there for her. I'm sure she wouldn't be living with you if she didn't have to. I'm sure she would want her own place and her own privacy as well. She is not interfering in your marriage, so your very lucky. Be thankful for that, your blessed.

Answer 10

well hon whose house is it? does your husband complain? or are you the one with the issues? how old is your mom?can she afford to be on her own? can you guys afford to assist her with her own place? you need to answer those questions and be honest, one more is the problem really your mom? anyhow pray ask God to help you to have patience and see the value of having your mom there with you. She won't always be there, appreciate the time you have with her, anyhow all the best.