My boyfriend's sister is going to have a baby soon. I know that eventually my boyfriend and I are going to get married. But the problem is that since I'm not married to him yet, I'm not seen as the soon to be aunt. Plus, his sister and I don't really have that great of a "friendship" at all, but I do want to become closer to her and don't know how. What should I do? Should I act like it's going to be my nephew/niece? Or, should I just back off completely and pretend like I don't care?
2006-08-06 14:34:49 · 12 answers · asked by Curious&can'twait 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just refer to yourself as Aunt "your name". And have your bf refer to you as such too in front of the baby. Maybe by the time the baby understands such things you and your bf will be married. Lots of kids refer to adults in their life as uncle or aunt even if they are not actually related.
2006-08-07 08:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by Dellajoy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you two engaged? Because if you are, technically you are the aunt. If the ring's not on your finger yet, though, try to get closer to his sister without seeming too "in your face" and desperate.
Buy her some nice baby toys, a blanket, or something, and wrap it so it looks really nice. Bring it to her yourself, and call it an early baby shower present. If she's not too busy, strike up a conversation, perhaps centered on your bf or the baby. Talk about yourself and make sure you ask her about her. Just be genuine, and keep in mind that even if you're not considered the aunt you can still get to know the baby.
2006-08-06 21:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by Smiles Like She Means It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don't pretend to not care. Love the baby, but you are not his/her aunt. Look I went through the same thing and I am not going to say this will happen to you because I hope that it doesn't but my sister had her son and I was dating this guy for years so the kids called him uncle well we broke up and I started dating another guy and they called him uncle. It was not good because the older boy wanted my ex (his uncle) you see it can be confusing. SO treat the baby like you would any other baby. The best way to get on her good side is to talk about why you two don't get along. Try to be calm and honest. But remember she may not be.
2006-08-06 22:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by trouble comes a knockin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how backing off and pretending you don't care will draw you all closer. How about just trying to be a friend. Be excited and happy for her. Take an interest in her and the baby. Offer to help. Take your cues from her. If she seems to back away from you, then don't push, but still be kind and friendly.
Try just talking to her. Tell her that you know you two aren't that close, but that you would hope that you would become closer and that you are really excited and happy for her and hope you'll get a chance to help out with the new baby.
2006-08-06 21:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by happygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave out the word aunt, announce you are very maternal, and you are glad to see she is going to be a mom, and hope she lets you as a family friend, to hold the baby, maybe even provide a little baby-sitting free in their home if they need it.
Give a little present when the kid is born, or at any baby shower where you are invited.
If you strike out, let it go. You can't force people to like you. It will either work out after (if) you do marry your b/f or it wont', but you can't make it happen beyond making polite and friendly overtures.
2006-08-06 21:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by retiredslashescaped1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's a baby and even if you dont like the kids mom, you shouldnt treat the kid the same way too. If you want to get close to your soon to be sister in law, maybe you should organize a baby shower for her. That would be a nice gesture. That could be a start.
2006-08-06 21:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only act if u care if u really mean it. but u can send her a gift for her baby, like soothers, pampers, clothes, whatever. she'll appreciate that and if she doesn't then who cares b-cus ur bf will. And I've been with my boyfriend 3 years and his little nephew calls me aunty and i tell people that's my nephew and no one makes a fuss over it or says anything and my boyfriends sister and me don't get along either, i could care less about her but i put up with her b-cus that's my boyfriends sister and he does tha same for me.... he doesn't like my sister either..lol oh yeah even though me and him are not married his family still calls me their daughter-n law sister-n-law newayz no one carez ..
2006-08-06 21:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the baby doesn't have the fault just treat the her the same way she treats u but don't get it with the baby
2006-08-06 21:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by burbuja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you let your Juvenal ego trip control your life you will never see the elephant rather you will live out your years as the sad looser that you were when you posed this question
2006-08-06 22:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by blue m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you'd like to be the aunt, talk to your bf about it.
2006-08-06 21:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by Sammy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋